An invitation to nowhere

breakdancer on his head

I’m one of those introverts that would never attend parties. I hate them. There’s too many drunk people and too noisy. You can’t have decent conversation and I don’t like shouting and repeating myself. I’m glad I haven’t received an invitation to one. I did once but I declined. It was one of those “let’s get drunk” parties. I just never liked parties. Discos in school was a nightmare. My kind of fun is watching movies, listening to music, taking a walk and calm things like that. Some people might think that’s boring but that’s better than spend time with a bunch of weirdos who can’t have fun without alcohol. Parties bores me to tears. I like one on one discussions and especially when you have something in common with them which doesn’t happen very often. I’m not into dancing and the only time I do it is alone where no one can see. I embarrass easily and try to avoid invitations. There would never be any either since I don’t have friends to spent time with. They would probably just want to socialize and meet the opposite sex for all I know. People drain me and when I finally get home, I feel more relaxed. I like being alone in public places. Even if I like meeting new people, I still need time alone to rewind.

The best invitation is an invitation to nowhere. I would definitely go. I’m actually already invited myself to nowhere. To a world of my own. In a way internet is a place to nowhere. As long as you have internet you can go to places from your own home and you don’t even need any warm clothes on. Sitting naked in your living room or whatever you fancy and no one will know. If I never got invited anywhere ever again I wouldn’t mind. If I invited someone it would be someone special and someone I know well.

People who put invitations online is looking for trouble. Some have put birthday party invitations on Facebook and somehow it has leaked. Then hell breaks loose. Where are all those cards you gave to your friends that you made yourself? No strangers arrived and you could have a peaceful party. Now it’s all over social media. Nothing is sacred anymore. Even the slightest information is online. Then people whine about how their privacy is violated. I’m not invited any of you to my house (or flat in my case) The only time I’m inviting strangers is to my blog. Here anyone can come and read. Even those who send spam to my inbox. I rather not have any of those but we can’t all be choosers.

On the long run

cyclers from the back

I hate running so I would never take a marathon. But if it comes to movies, then yes I’m up for one. People who run marathons must have great willpower training for one for months. I’ve seen competitions on TV and it really takes a lot out of the runners. Us normal humans, even getting off the couch, is a challenge. Some have never exercised in their life so they can’t understand how much time and effort it takes. The runners also need to think about the heat and what to eat. If running a marathon was easy, anyone could do it.

I can have a listening to music marathon. I could listen to different music all day and not getting tired of it. At the same time, writing or doing something productive. If you run, it’s just that. When you watch a movie marathon, that’s the only thing you do. In that you need to concentrate. I love all the Lord of the rings and The Hobbit movie, extended versions. One of these days I will watch all six of them. It takes forever and the only thing that’s gonna get sore is my eyes and back. I’ve watched them separately but never together. You need time to watch something like that. That’s part of my retirement plan. If I ever get that far.

Sometimes I have writing fiction marathons. One story at the time of course. Ideas comes flooding no matter what time it is. Once you start you can’t stop. There is times I’ve haven’t slept all night because I got so much to write. I don’t want to lose the train of thought. When I got into that world in my mind, even a little distraction gets me irritated. It’s difficult to get that mood back again. That was something my mother couldn’t really understand. That’s why I’m a writer and only writer’s understand the flow you sometimes get. Having so much thoughts in your head, your hand or fingers can’t keep up. That’s kind of marathons I take part in. Running? Nah, I rather do it in my head.

Just put your mind into it

capable quote
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“I can’t do it” “Yes you can”
Sometimes you think you can’t do things but you’re capable to do anything if you put your mind to it. I said to my mother a lot of times, I can’t do it whatever it was. But as a parent should, she always believed I would. It’s difficult to judge yourself. It’s not until someone says you’re good at something, you believe it. Even then you feel you’re not good enough. I’m never completely satisfied of things I do. Even in blogging I sometimes think my writing is not good enough. Of course you get better, more you practise. I wish I had the enthusiasm to practise other things. I should practise photography but I’m not that excited. Practise has always been difficult for me. I’m probably lazy to do things. I also give up too easily. When I was a child I took electronic piano lessons but I didn’t like the teacher so I quit. I even got an electronic piano for Christmas but I didn’t play with it that much. I still have it in my own place. One of the keys is broken so it’s not much fun to play it. I used it when I got older but I only learned with one hand. I also played a fibble flute in school but I didn’t practise enough. Now I can play it of course and I do from time to time. Practise makes perfect but I just have to find motivation to do it.

I know I can do things if I just put my mind to it. If I learned English and riding a bike, I can learn other things too. I’ve never been good in Math and that’s something I will never learn no matter how much mind I have in it. But other easier things is a possibility. Creative stuff mostly because that’s a natural thing for me. Maybe I’m born with it, I don’t know. I have to keep telling myself I am capable and not fall into despair. What I’m learning now is coding and that’s been a challenge to me. It feels like I’m never gonna make it. I haven’t been confident enough to believe I got what it takes to become a web designer. I didn’t think I would. It was just something I wanted to add to my resume but now when I’ve got to know more about it, I’ve started to think maybe I could become one. My client gave me great feedback and it gave me more confidence. It’s not only about designing websites. A web designer can also make things a graphic designer can. There’s a lot of opportunities to do creative things and that’s what I know I’m capable of.

You should never doubt your skills. That’s what I should try to remember myself. Everybody probably doesn’t like what you do but you can’t please everyone. People have different opinions. Having those negative ones should be taken advantage of and make you do things differently. I hardly get any feedback online how to improve things and are the things I do really any good. If it’s writing fiction or taking photograph. How can you improve if you don’t get any constructive feedback? But it won’t stop me from doing things. I do it for myself anyway. Maybe people just don’t know how to analyse things. Well, not everyone is an expert on that. You need to have a special mind to have deep thoughts. I have learned to get things done by myself without anyone’s help. In that way I’m an independent person. If I wanted help I would ask for it but I usually try to search the answer myself first. If you want things done, you need to do them yourself. If you’re capable of doing that, you can do anything.

 

Tallenna