You infected me with Hiddlestoner

proud hiddlestoner textBefore everything was fine. There were no distractions. At least not this kind. Then I got infected with Hiddlestoner. Fandom of British actor, Tom Hiddleston. Every person in a fandom is different. A different perspective. For some, it can just be someone they admire or look up to. Then there are those who want to marry them. Of course, that’s just a fantasy. It won’t come true. Besides that kind of thoughts disappear as soon as they meet a person in real life. Being a fan is not only for teenagers. On Urban Dictionary there is kind of funny description of what a Hiddlestoner is. Some people can take it a bit too far but as long as it’s only harmless fun no harm done.

I wouldn’t really feel comfortable calling myself a real Hiddlestoner. I don’t go searching for info or photos of him. They just happen to appear somewhere. Mostly on Pinterest these days. Somethings I don’t want to know.  Like his personal life because that’s not my business. It feels a bit weird being called a fan because he’s so much more than an actor to me. Sometimes I wish he could just be someone you meet in a normal situation. Then again if he was just a so-called ordinary person, I wouldn’t know about him. Let’s face it, you won’t find a person like him on the street. Especially in my country. He wouldn’t even notice me, actor or not. So it wouldn’t really matter what the situation would be. How does anyone really know what he’s really like? Maybe it’s just good branding. Be nice and charming and the admires will come. I’m not saying it’s all an act. I did fall for that same “marketing strategy” A lot later but still.

I see a lot of these “oh he’s so perfect” Sorry but he’s not. No one is. In interviews, he only tells you what he wants you to know. Anyone have their flaws so he’s no different from the rest of us. Famous people, in general, are put up on a pedestal and people see them as “perfect” But they’re still human but a lot of money to spend. A lot of these fangirls of Tom probably think everything he does or says is perfect. Not even his acting is perfect. That’s a part you can improve in though. He might look perfect but still not totally flawless. I do admit it was his appearance I noticed first. I actually didn’t even know how he looked like until I saw the video on Youtube with the Sesame Street’s Cookie Monster. I knew about Loki but I hadn’t cared about Marvel movies at all. After I saw ‘The Night Manager’ I knew there was no turn back. So thank you, Tom, for destroying another life.

 

“Our list of allies grows thin”

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In this case, my allies grows thin. I have no plans what to do next. Except for that graphic design course in Helsinki Design School. This heat we have now makes me tired and I can’t concentrate. It’s only May but it feels like summer. I just hate hot weather and I wish it would be over for good. At least there will be some release soon. Summer also mean summer jobs. For young people that is. People go on their holidays and you can’t contact any of the employers. Companies have their substitutes already. Time just isn’t on my side. So isn’t my age.

I’m turning 41 in June and the older I get fewer changes I have. It gets thinner and thinner. It doesn’t help last time I had a job was in 2012 and it wasn’t even paid. I had that on-the-job learning thing but I guess that’s not appreciated either. Employers probably think I’m lazy because I haven’t bothered getting a job. It doesn’t help I’ve studied things. They want people with jobs and not a long-term unemployed person. Not only that but also people with talking skills. I fail at job interviews because I’m an introvert who can’t act extroverted. When I try to find a job to apply for it’s in a different city and I’m under qualified. I got so many flaws and feel I failed at employment altogether. There is no use crying over something that has already happened. I should look forward and keep the faith.

I wish I wasn’t such a dreamer. I should do something about my life instead of complain about it. I just feel I’m a misfit for everything. There are times I’ve felt I belonged. Like in studying but when it comes to making things for a living, I’m totally in a different universe. Once in my life, I want to do something brave and being an entrepreneur is one of them. But it’s so hard to decide to do it or not. I did the course but it doesn’t mean I can really do it. I don’t want to fail and start all over again. I lack the experience of a real paid job but a lot of young people start a business without any experience so that shouldn’t be a problem for me. There are so many questions and thin answers that I don’t know what to do. I read about blogs about entrepreneurs who’s been doing it for years and they make it look so easy. They have their problems but they solve them. It feels like I don’t really belong to that brave bunch. Because they are brave unlike me who do anything to avoid problems. I don’t seem to have that entrepreneur mindset either.

Every time I look for a job to apply for I don’t find anything suitable. I want to give up the job search altogether. Especially that active model Finland has now where you have to get a job or else you lose part of your unemployment benefits. Entrepreneurship looks so much more tempting. Starting one isn’t the hardest part though, it’s what comes after it. My problems are really decision making. As long as I’m healthy and vibrant anything can be possible. If you give up and start thinking you’re not wanted anywhere, it’s then you lose yourself and your hopes will be dashed. Allies might get thin but you can always find new ones. There’s always someone with the same kind of problems. You can find a solution one way or another. The best feeling is when you can share your thoughts with other people and they can relate to it. I really hope this post has had that same effect.

Trash belongs to the bin and not in the forest

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Forest in Eurajoki, Finland 2016

Imagine, you take a walk in the forest. You hear the birds and the wind. The fresh scent reaches your nostrils. You enjoy the silence and feel relaxed. You’re just minding your own business. You think everything looks so clean. But then while walking down the path, you see someone has thrown something on the ground. It’s probably candy paper or even worse, a plastic bag full of trash. You keep walking and then find another one. Maybe some hiker has left it behind. You’re appalled at the behaviour of some humans. You’re there to enjoy the forest but this untidy person has spoiled your day. Trash belongs to the bin and not in the forest. What kind of moron get to the forest and leaves their trash behind to spoil nature? If you can’t pick up your own garbage, why go to the forest at all? They might just stay at home. There they can throw trash anywhere they want.

People only not leave trash behind in the forest but also in the city. If it’s in a park in some festival or even if the trash bin is close by, they don’t bother throwing it there. The worse thing is the cigarette stubs. There are those in the forest too. It’s so disgusting walking around and then you see that crap on the ground. What is wrong with people these days? Especially in Finland where nature used to be important. There is no respect anymore. I wonder if parents let their kids do whatever they want. When I was a child, we put our trash in our pockets if there weren’t a bin nearby. People have no common sense. The litterbug’s motives are probably to make the world a big garbage bag. Or they expect others to pick up their trash. That’s laziness and uncaring about their surroundings.

Finland is really lucky to still have forests and clean air but that’s something people have no respect for. It should really be banned to throw trash in nature but that’s difficult to control. You don’t even get a fine if you leave trash behind. Also, some dog owners don’t pick their droppings from the ground. Most disgusting thing ever. If you can’t clean after your dog, why have one in the first place? Some people shouldn’t have pets at all. Like people who litter shouldn’t be able to buy anything. The way things are going, nature will be full of garbage and no fresh air anywhere if the attitudes won’t change. Doesn’t humans have any shame? The future children won’t have anything but dirt around them.

Nothing beats fresh air and clean shores. Nature is good for your mental health and keeps your stress away. I love going to the forest where I can be alone. I live in a city where the forest isn’t far and you can cycle there. The best place is in Lapland if you want fresh air. Both winter and summer. Beware of the mosquitos in the summer though. They’re little irritating buggers, I tell you that. Especially the buzz you hear when they’re close to your ear. The fresh air also is good for your skin. The whole atmosphere there is totally different than in polluted city air. A lot of tourists who’s visited the place have noticed the clean air. Well, it’s still clear but for how long, I do not know. The way some are littering in forests and other places, it can be over any day. So please, let’s not litter, OK? We need to leave something for the future children. The forest is our natural resource so let’s not take it for granted.