Not going with the flow

passenger in bus

I’m one of those people who doesn’t follow fashion or the latest trends. As a woman, people expect that from you. But like my blog address says; Tomboy for life. I hate that girly stuff and if people can’t accept that then it’s too bad. I follow my own path. I didn’t rebel when I was a teenager but rebel now against all these stereotype things. I rather be the driver of my life than the passenger. I’m not here to please people. I dare to be different. People expect you to go with the flow and be like everyone else. You should like the same movies or the same music like everyone else. If you’re single you should live like in Sex in the City. You should dress in a certain way because of your gender. If you’re not like everyone else, they call you names or look at you strangely. People are too attached to looks. They judge you by just looking at you instead of getting to know the person. If you look at a person you can’t know what they’re really like. Even if you know a person, you can’t know everything about them. You only know them what they tell you.

I’m a big music lover and one of my favourite music is mainstream. But what they have these days on the charts, it’s something I don’t care about. I don’t know half of those bands or artist you see these days. I listen to those who’s been around for years. They know how to make music and it’s up to date. I used to follow the music business and knew about the latest hits. Now I just don’t care anymore. I don’t know what kids know about music history but if you don’t even know any a singers from the past, then what kind of music lover are you. When I was that age, I knew about the music my parents listened to when they were young. Now if it’s a band or singer who was popular 15 years ago, kids don’t know them. If they listen to old music they laugh or think it sounds awful. Music knowledge should be taught in school. If there weren’t The Beatles, Rolling Stones etc, there wouldn’t be any of the current ones. Things haven’t changed since I was a teenager. Then they listened to music that was on the charts and when new ones came, the old ones were forgotten. I was never one of those teens who changed music tastes every week. I still listen to some of the bands and singers I listened to then. You don’t see their music on the latest charts even if they have released new material. Duran Duran is one of them. Kids these days don’t know what good music is anymore.

I’m also a movie lover and I watch movies that I think is interesting. I don’t go and see a movie because it’s popular. Some years there’s not much I want to see. But years like this one there’s been a lot of interesting movies. I’ve seen at least 3 movies in the cinema this year. There’s two more and they’re Thor and Star Wars. I was actually not very interesting in them when they were trendy. I still don’t care about certain Marvel movies but I’ve watched Thor and Doctor Strange on blu-ray. I’m so called late bloomer when it comes to those movies. If the characters were played by other actors, I probably wouldn’t care about them as much as I do now.

I never do things rationally. If I decide something I think long and hard if it’s worth it. The only time I went with the flow was starting this blog. I’ve always written something and when I started, I was never afraid to start one. I wish I could make easy decisions like that in other things as well. I’m my own driver of my own life. If passengers wants to get on board, they’re more than welcome.

Tallenna

Tallenna

The illusion of introverts

only illusionSome people have the illusion that introverts are quiet and they don’t like people. As a matter of fact, both introverts and extrovert do like to talk but introverts choose when to open their mouths. Someone who keeps talking is stressful. For example, yesterday when I went by bus to celebrate Midsummer Eve, there was this young woman who kept talking to her friend. The whole trip she kept talking. I thought, does she ever shut up? Not a silent moment from her. How can someone have so many thoughts coming out of their mouth is beyond me. Even if I know a person, it still feels awkward to know what to say. What’s wrong with being quiet? You don’t have to keep talking all the time. Silence should be appreciated.

Think before you speak is much better than someone who keeps saying what comes out of their mouths. A study says that quiet people are smarter and it might be true. At least when it comes to talking nonsense. When you think first before you speak, you don’t hurt someone feelings on purpose. Online it’s easier to say what you think but even then you should think first. If you’re angry, you should calm down first because when you are, you can say things you can regret later. Being rude is not cool.

I don’t like wasting my time with talking whatever comes to mind. Introverts like to think before speaking. If there’s a subject I know something about, it’s obvious I will talk more. If people keep saying why I’m quiet, they don’t really know me. I could get angry at them and yell in frustration, “I am not quiet so stop saying that” But I won’t since I think about their feelings too. If they want me to talk then they will regret it because when I talk about a subject I like, I’ll never shut up. Subjects I don’t care about bores me. No one likes someone who talks about something they’ve never experienced or have no idea about. That’s one of my pet peeves. Before talking about something, you should get your fact right first.

Never have an illusion that an introvert doesn’t like talking. You should get to know one first before saying how quiet they are. First impressions can be deceiving. I think that’s been one of the reasons why people never want to get to know me. I never give a good first impression. It really bugs me when people think I’m quiet and they see that straight away. It doesn’t really matter what people think. I could have got sensitive about it when I was younger. But now I wouldn’t care less. I don’t know how much you need to talk before not being called quiet. I’m not presenting anything. If I give short answers that should be enough. It’s not really my fault if people don’t get the idea. There’s too much talking in the world anyway so without the quiet people, there would be no piece anywhere.

 

Tallenna

Tallenna

Tallenna

Tallenna

Tallenna

Tallenna

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