Not fishing for compliments

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Social media is a big part of our lives. People are always fishing for compliments. If it’s likes to a photo on Instagram or a video on Youtube. Just a mention a few. But not all of us are ‘victims’ of this popularity contest. Of course, it’s always nice that you get noticed by other people but that’s not the reason you post of social media or in blogging. Having the freedom to post your ideas or showing something to others, if it gets likes or not, is good enough. Social media is for everyone and not only for those who want attention.

Personally, social media hasn’t given me what I hoped for. It’s just been a tool and that’s what it really is. You read about people finding work via social media. Or at least how to get noticed by employers. But I guess it’s just luck and I have none. I mostly use Twitter and Facebook. I don’t really care about other social media platforms. I only use Instagram occasionally because I only have a tablet and isn’t any good. I watch other peoples post but hardly post myself. I tried to post via a computer but I didn’t get any likes so I wonder if anyone even saw it. When I post there I do get some likes but nothing newsworthy.

I prefer blogging over all those social media platforms. Most of them are superficial. In blogging, you can go deeper into your thoughts. My blog isn’t media sexy but it’s not supposed to either. I’ve written about it before but I say it again. I always wanted to have a different blog from the others out there. There is already enough of these food, fashion and lifestyle blogs. I leave those for people who actually know something about it. All kinds of blogs are needed because their written by different people and have different views on the matters. This is my 6th year of blogging. The first year in 2013 was short so I don’t count that. A lot has happened then. Not bad for someone with a “boring life”. I’ve been in WordPress over 10 years which I wrote about the 10 anniversary here. I’ve learned a lot since I started. Went from free to personal plan, is one change. And of course, people have found this blog, so thank you. So blogging has given me so much more than any social media ever have. I don’t need to fish for compliments, I let my writing do the talking.

Having copious of followers doesn’t mean a thing

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Yesterday when I was scrolling my Pinterest feed, I came across a pin about why companies fail. There was this tip about having followers on social media etc. It was about a business but it’s good advice for blogging too. Having copious of followers on your blog doesn’t mean they actually read your blog. I always say the quality is better than quantity. You can have thousands of followers but you can never guarantee how many of them actually read the blog. Maybe some only collect followers so they can feel good about themselves. Blogging is not only for reading but also for interacting with others. I can understand if you don’t know what to say or you’re shy about leaving a comment. I don’t always comment on other people’s blogs either. Only writing ‘Great post’ isn’t really constructive. A like is better than an unimaginative comment.

There is a lot of tips about how to gain more followers but you can forget that. A lot of those tips are about how to get customers. Not so much about blogging as a hobby. Getting followers is a marathon. It takes time. Some blogs might get more in a short time but for some, it takes longer. It’s not a competition where the person with the most follows in a week or a month gets a big prize. Promoting your blog on social media is waste of time if you ask me. If your blog is on WordPress, only people who also are on it can follow your blog. Correct me if I’m wrong. None of my friends on Facebook or even on Twitter read blogs. I don’t think anyone has found this blog on social media even if I post there regularly. Especially on Twitter. It’s like talking to a wall sometimes. It’s more likely to get readers to your blog through WordPress Reader than on social media.

Having followers and having readers is two different things. Many celebrities have millions of followers but how many of them actually read what they write. Maybe people only follow them because it’s cool. None of these celebs interacts with their fans for real. How would they have time anyway? Sometimes you can see some of them responding to their fans. Like Pink or Stephen Fry. It’s not an issue for them if people are followers or readers. For them, it’s just sharing things. For us ‘normal’ people it’s more important. Maybe not everyone but some of us rather have readers to our blogs than just followers. We want to share things but we also want interaction. You really can’t wait for people to find your blog. You have to comment on other people’s blog post too. This is something I forget about it myself. I try to reply to every comment I get. If I don’t, at least I like the comment just to prove I read it.

Having too many followers and following a lot is a bit superficial. No one has that much time so they could read every blog they follow. I would rather follow a blog if I actually read it. Some people brag about how many followers they have. It’s really off-putting. You got to have some dignity and not sell yourself short. I wonder if these people ever got enough attention at home or why do they have such urge to get noticed. If you want to become an internet prostitute, be my guest. Most of us want to keep our self-respect. Our life is not about how many followers we have. Having copious of followers doesn’t mean a thing. It’s about people who actually care.

It takes a lot to get things out of you

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Sometimes things you do feels like psychical labour. If it’s blogging or job search. It takes a lot to get things out of you. You try to figure out what to write but nothing comes out. You stare at the white paper or screen and you get nothing. You need to write that blog post or that cover letter but you can’t find the right words. That’s what happens to me a lot. I dislike writing cover letters because I never know what to write. Blogging is easier because most of the time I know what to say.

Recently though, I noticed in the stats that my posts haven’t drawn that much traffic to this blog. Things like this shouldn’t bother me but I would be lying if it didn’t. Maybe August was just a slow month. Luckily this blog is as a hobby so I don’t have any pressure to blog. I write to write and not make a profit from it. I haven’t really had anything to write about. Maybe it’s one of those dry spells. It’s like swimming in tar. This is my 5th year in blogging and every post can’t get a lot of traffic. Stats don’t tell the whole truth either, remember that. Especially if you only write it as a hobby.

Trying to find blogging tips if you don’t want a living of it, is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. That’s almost forced labour. All you find is how to make money. Maybe one day I should write a post about blogging as a hobby. It’s just that I’m not good at giving advice. I can only give my view on it but I’m not very helpful in that field. If you really search on Google, you might find advice about hobby blogging. Blogging is not rocket science. It’s easy to start one. It’s getting readers and followers to your blog that needs work. It really depends on what kind of blog you have. For me, it took some years but I got there in the end (515 follows so far) Taking part in writing challenges is one way to get noticed. Like this, Ragtag daily prompt. It doesn’t feel like labour at all. On the contrary, it gives you more motivation to keep blogging and fun is the word that should describe it all.