The illusion of introverts

June 24, 2017June 24, 2017 Mia1 Comment

only illusion Some people have the illusion that introverts are quiet and they don’t like people. As a matter of fact, both introverts and extrovert do like to talk but introverts choose when to open their mouths. Someone who keeps talking is stressful. For example, yesterday when I went by bus to celebrate Midsummer Eve, there was this young woman who kept talking to her friend. The whole trip she kept talking. I thought, does she ever shut up? Not a silent moment from her. How can someone have so many thoughts coming out of their mouth is beyond me. Even if I know a person, it still feels awkward to know what to say. What’s wrong with being quiet? You don’t have to keep talking all the time. Silence should be appreciated.

Think before you speak is much better than someone who keeps saying what comes out of their mouths. A study says that quiet people are smarter and it might be true. At least when it comes to talking nonsense. When you think first before you speak, you don’t hurt someone feelings on purpose. Online it’s easier to say what you think but even then you should think first. If you’re angry, you should calm down first because when you are, you can say things you can regret later. Being rude is not cool.

I don’t like wasting my time with talking whatever comes to mind. Introverts like to think before speaking. If there’s a subject I know something about, it’s obvious I will talk more. If people keep saying why I’m quiet, they don’t really know me. I could get angry at them and yell in frustration, “I am not quiet so stop saying that” But I won’t since I think about their feelings too. If they want me to talk then they will regret it because when I talk about a subject I like, I’ll never shut up. Subjects I don’t care about bores me. No one likes someone who talks about something they’ve never experienced or have no idea about. That’s one of my pet peeves. Before talking about something, you should get your fact right first.

Never have an illusion that an introvert doesn’t like talking. You should get to know one first before saying how quiet they are. First impressions can be deceiving. I think that’s been one of the reasons why people never want to get to know me. I never give a good first impression. It really bugs me when people think I’m quiet and they see that straight away. It doesn’t really matter what people think. I could have got sensitive about it when I was younger. But now I wouldn’t care less. I don’t know how much you need to talk before not being called quiet. I’m not presenting anything. If I give short answers that should be enough. It’s not really my fault if people don’t get the idea. There’s too much talking in the world anyway so without the quiet people, there would be no piece anywhere.

Tallenna

My life is not an open book

January 27, 2017 Mia5 Comments

What you see is what you get, doesn’t really apply to me. I have a filter that protects me from prying eyes. It’s not that I want to hide the real me from others but I’m an introvert and we’re careful. I’ve also learned to be careful from past experiences. At home I can be myself but in public, I’m reserved. I have thoughts some might not understand. My life is not an open book and I want to keep it private. If I open up to a person, it’s someone I trust. The only one who knows the real me, is myself. Not even my parents knew. They only knew what I was when I was younger. I’ve never told them I write this blog for example. Some things you just want to keep to yourself. You need to do it. If I told everyone everything about myself, the mystery would be lost. That’s what life should be about. If you know everything about a person then there’s no surprises. What kind of life would it be?

People post about what they do on social media. Some keep updating things they’re doing at that moment. Who they talk to and where they are. I find that boring. I don’t care what you ate, if you took a shower, baked a cake or went to a birthday party. I don’t care about what your friends are doing or who they got engaged to. That’s what I keep seeing on Facebook. On Twitter I have ‘only’ 6125 tweets in 7 years I’ve been there. I don’t tweet nonsense. From time to time I do post things I do but that’s not regularly like most people do. I’m not trying to make a world record of tweets. When I have something important to say, I tweet it. I also hate selfies. Every time someone post one, I totally ignore it. Especially celebrities. Like they weren’t enough in the public eye already. If I want to see photos of them, I look for real photos taken by pros. Since camera phones were invented people think they’re all photographers.

Everyone seems to want to be like everybody else. I don’t want to be like everyone. I have a natural filter and know what to tell about myself online. If you read my about page, you know why I don’t post private things. Everybody seems to write about that. I dare to be different. Even though I have Instagram, I don’t post there much. To be honest, I find it a bit boring. It’s just isn’t my thing. I was excited at first when I could finally join last year but now I’m not that much. I follow 14 different one’s and that’s fine. For example I follow @cutepetclub because there’s so many cuties in it. Pets that is. I like looking at other people’s posts but when it comes to posting myself, I’m not that keen anymore. Sometimes I just scroll without looking because let’s face it, what people post there is boring.

I don’t have the urge to get people’s attention and that’s the same in real life. One on one conversations is good enough for me. I get really uncomfortable if someone looks at me. I wouldn’t make Youtube videos because I feel uneasy in front of a camera. It was different when I was a kid. I was cute then. I leave those things to others. I don’t go after things because they’re popular. I’m not the victim of commercials. It’s easy to judge someone by the first impression but I’m more than what people see when they meet me. People give up too easily when they do. That’s one of the reasons I find it hard to meet new people. It’s really their loss and not mine. I’m proud of who I am and if I were someone else, I would be my friend. I always say I’m my own best friend because who knows me best than myself.

An invitation to nowhere

January 17, 2017 Mia2 Comments

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I’m one of those introverts that would never attend parties. I hate them. There’s too many drunk people and too noisy. You can’t have decent conversation and I don’t like shouting and repeating myself. I’m glad I haven’t received an invitation to one. I did once but I declined. It was one of those “let’s get drunk” parties. I just never liked parties. Discos in school was a nightmare. My kind of fun is watching movies, listening to music, taking a walk and calm things like that. Some people might think that’s boring but that’s better than spend time with a bunch of weirdos who can’t have fun without alcohol. Parties bores me to tears. I like one on one discussions and especially when you have something in common with them which doesn’t happen very often. I’m not into dancing and the only time I do it is alone where no one can see. I embarrass easily and try to avoid invitations. There would never be any either since I don’t have friends to spent time with. They would probably just want to socialize and meet the opposite sex for all I know. People drain me and when I finally get home, I feel more relaxed. I like being alone in public places. Even if I like meeting new people, I still need time alone to rewind.

The best invitation is an invitation to nowhere. I would definitely go. I’m actually already invited myself to nowhere. To a world of my own. In a way internet is a place to nowhere. As long as you have internet you can go to places from your own home and you don’t even need any warm clothes on. Sitting naked in your living room or whatever you fancy and no one will know. If I never got invited anywhere ever again I wouldn’t mind. If I invited someone it would be someone special and someone I know well.

People who put invitations online is looking for trouble. Some have put birthday party invitations on Facebook and somehow it has leaked. Then hell breaks loose. Where are all those cards you gave to your friends that you made yourself? No strangers arrived and you could have a peaceful party. Now it’s all over social media. Nothing is sacred anymore. Even the slightest information is online. Then people whine about how their privacy is violated. I’m not invited any of you to my house (or flat in my case) The only time I’m inviting strangers is to my blog. Here anyone can come and read. Even those who send spam to my inbox. I rather not have any of those but we can’t all be choosers.