First impression is not always the best

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I don’t why some people think they know a person after they met them the first time. The first impression is not always the best. If the person is friendly, it’s because they have manners. But you can’t know what the person is like. E.g. they say the first impression is important in a job interview. Apparently, it should take 2 minutes. That’s how long people I meet spend time with me. I never get any friends because they’re not patient enough. Being friendly doesn’t get you, friends. Not that I need any. I’ve managed without them so far. With friends, I mean, friends offline. I have friends on Facebook that I went to the same school with, but I haven’t met them privately. Two of them are my former workmates, but I didn’t spend time with them after work. Our interests are just different.

I don’t know what it is, but no one seems to want to keep in touch after an education. Maybe I’m just boring, and they don’t bother. I haven’t missed them either. They don’t even live in the same city, so we couldn’t meet anyway. Only losers keep in touch with former schoolmates. Not really, though. Only those who keep in touch with their old friends in their childhood. At least I don’t understand why someone should. It doesn’t mean they are losers. It’s weird people still meet their childhood friends. You would think they would have grown apart by now. Personally, I wouldn’t try to find old friends. I wouldn’t have anything in common with them. They probably have families, or they’ve died. I rather meet new people and not keep in touch. I’m not very good at that. Not even when it comes to relatives.

Some people act to be friendly, but they’re not really. The first impression of a person is not always the best. Sometimes I wonder why someone has got a job in the first place. Especially if they work in the service sector. No matter how bad you feel, you shouldn’t take it out on a customer. It goes the other way around too. I was once in a Finnish train station, and I went to ask the service clerk about which rail my train would leave. I said what train it was. The woman behind the desk said negatively, just look at the board up on the wall over there. She didn’t even bother to look at her computer. There were a lot of trains coming and going. I thought I would miss my train. I did try to look for it on the screen, but it was confusing. That was the reason why I went to the clerk to ask in the first place. That’s the worst service I ever got. How can someone like her get a job in a service business with an attitude like that? Luckily, I did find my train, but she ruined my whole day. I’m still appalled when I think about that day. Your bad mood shouldn’t affect the way you treat others. Rudeness is one of the worst things in the world. It’s much better to be polite, and it also makes the customer feel they matter. The other way around too.

I always try to be friendly with others. Sometimes I get upset at something someone has done, but I don’t say it to someone face. Unless it’s someone I know well, then I’m not afraid to say my opinion. If I’m rude, I’m not doing it out of spite. If you answer with anger, then you get the same. If the person is rude, you shouldn’t be rude back. It’s easy to fall for that trap when the other is trying to provoke you. That person only wants to argue. I guess when you get older, you calm down and don’t go into every argument. At the first impression, you would think I’m always calm and don’t give out my own opinions. But there are a time and a place for everything. Never judge a person at first impression because you only get to know them after a longer period of time. Don’t give everything out at once. The best part of any relationship is having a mystery to solve. You might even learn something new about yourself.

Not fishing for compliments

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Social media is a big part of our lives. People are always fishing for compliments. If it’s likes to a photo on Instagram or a video on Youtube. Just a mention a few. But not all of us are ‘victims’ of this popularity contest. Of course, it’s always nice that you get noticed by other people but that’s not the reason you post of social media or in blogging. Having the freedom to post your ideas or showing something to others, if it gets likes or not, is good enough. Social media is for everyone and not only for those who want attention.

Personally, social media hasn’t given me what I hoped for. It’s just been a tool and that’s what it really is. You read about people finding work via social media. Or at least how to get noticed by employers. But I guess it’s just luck and I have none. I mostly use Twitter and Facebook. I don’t really care about other social media platforms. I only use Instagram occasionally because I only have a tablet and isn’t any good. I watch other peoples post but hardly post myself. I tried to post via a computer but I didn’t get any likes so I wonder if anyone even saw it. When I post there I do get some likes but nothing newsworthy.

I prefer blogging over all those social media platforms. Most of them are superficial. In blogging, you can go deeper into your thoughts. My blog isn’t media sexy but it’s not supposed to either. I’ve written about it before but I say it again. I always wanted to have a different blog from the others out there. There is already enough of these food, fashion and lifestyle blogs. I leave those for people who actually know something about it. All kinds of blogs are needed because their written by different people and have different views on the matters. This is my 6th year of blogging. The first year in 2013 was short so I don’t count that. A lot has happened then. Not bad for someone with a “boring life”. I’ve been in WordPress over 10 years which I wrote about the 10 anniversary here. I’ve learned a lot since I started. Went from free to personal plan, is one change. And of course, people have found this blog, so thank you. So blogging has given me so much more than any social media ever have. I don’t need to fish for compliments, I let my writing do the talking.

Abrupt for a moment

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On Facebook there is a section called ‘Did you know’ There are random questions you can answer. You can also add questions yourself. So if I could abrupt you for a moment. I’ve collected 20 question below. It’s quite long so be prepared. So here we go, as The Joker says in ‘The Dark Knight’

1. The person I’d love to invite to my birthday party is…
Quite convenient because my birthday is in a month. I wouldn’t have a party. Maybe a party for two and that would definitely be with Tom Hiddleston 😉 And/Or Lee Pace.

2. Beard or no beard?
It really depends on the man. I prefer stubble the most though.

3. If I could be famous for anything, it would be…
A web designer or photographer.

4. I’ve never been able to correctly say the word…
Photographer. It always sounds quite awful when I say it out loud. Failure is also a difficult word to pronounce.

5. A dream trip of mine is…
New Zealand. Since I saw Lord of the rings. It’s quite expensive so it might never happen.

6. My favourite sport(s) to watch…
Ice hockey and tennis. I haven’t watched the latter lately though. I’ve seen ice hockey live a lot of times. The atmosphere is amazing.

7. If you want to make me happy, just give me…
Chocolate. Dark mostly would be good. It can be Toblerone or Finnish chocolate from Fazer.

8. I’d love to be an expert in…
I’m not really an expert in anything so it would be nice to be great at something. Probably in web design or something else creative.

9. When I can’t sleep, I think about…
A lot of things which is the reason I can’t sleep

10. I’m a huge fan of…
Music, movies, crime shows, British comedy.

11. I feel faint when…
When I see Tom Hiddleston and Lee Pace. It’s not just their appearance but also their personalities.

12. I deserve the award for…
My tolerance for idiots. They seem to be everywhere.

13. For me, there’s no better therapy than…
Writing. Fiction and blogging. Music is also helpful.

14. My first scare was…
I saw a real moose when I was 2 years old.

15. If I could bring anyone back to life, I would bring back…
My mother and my sister. Things would be different if they had been around a bit longer.

16. Thanks to the Internet, I have been able to…
Meet people from different parts of the world. That’s cheaper than travelling.

17. My hidden talent is…
I can make different sounds and talk in accents. Or some kind of accent that is. It might not sound real but still.

18. The subject that I was bad at in secondary school was…
Math and I still do. I had remedial teaching but that didn’t help much. I have a mild dyscalculia so numbers can be confusing. Especially when it comes to counting. I have to think really hard so I rather not do Math at all because it just stresses me out.

19. If I found myself on a desert island, I would like to be with…
Shall I say it again? OK, Tom Hiddleston and/or Lee Pace.

20. A good excuse for eating ice cream is…
Every excuse is good. I eat ice cream all year around. But of course in the summer when it’s hot, it’s the best reason.