Trying no to flare up about misfortunes

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Life is full of disappointments, I once wrote on this blog. I try not to flare up when it comes to misfortunes. But sometimes you need to rant about it. I didn’t get the internship that I went for an interview. At least I don’t think so because they never did inform me. They could have at least bothered to tell me. I can’t understand why employers can’t tell the applicants about the results. A no is better than no answer at all. Since there was no reply last week I assume it’s a lost cause. Just as well. The other interns were much younger than me. It wasn’t even a paid job. But that would have been better than nothing. Well, their loss. Looking on the bright side, I can concentrate on my school assignments. It still blows I didn’t get the internship though. It seems I can’t even get free work. It feels like all the educations I’ve had is all unnecessary. I don’t know why I even bother studying anything. I should get work experience but no one gives you a chance. That’s a problem for the young and the older job seekers.

You’re either too young or too old. Even someone over 40 is old for most employers. What are they worried about? They don’t want to babysit or boss their mothers? Job search is a pain and it gets worse the longer you are unemployed. All this propaganda about how to find work doesn’t help. People can give you millions of advice but none of them will help your cause. The job search has become a competition. Is not what kind of education you have, it’s about who you know. It helps if you’re an outgoing and a-happy-go-lucky-really- social person. If you’re not, then there are troubles ahead. After so many disappointments you lose hope of finding any work. You start to think there is something wrong about you. But it isn’t. It’s the job search that is rotten. Employers are too afraid to take risks. It frustrates me when these 30 years something praise how they got a job after a job search in 6 months. That’s nothing, try 10 or more years and then praise it. It’s so easy to brag about your good luck when others struggle for years.

I’ve been to these job search and resume courses but none of them has helped to find me a job. The only thing I got was something to do and once I found an education I applied to (it was the web design education) That didn’t help either to get a job. There is no point applying for any job because I’m gonna get rejected anyway. If I can’t even get this internship without pay, then how can I get a paid one. I’m actually so fed up with this all. I know I should think positive but it’s hard since nothing ever happens. I could just go to sleep and pray for death. Not really though. In a way, I understand people who don’t even want to look for a job. Job search is hard and you get emotionally drained about the whole process. But I wouldn’t want to live all my life on social benefits. My parent taught me better than that. If I had the courage I would become an entrepreneur at this instant but that has its disadvantages too. Feeling unwanted is one of the worst feelings but you just have to continue living. At least I have other things to do. Or else this unemployment would take harder to bear.

Job search is a chore

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There are very unpleasant chores like cleaning the bathroom and then there a chore a lot of people need to do to survive. That is a job search. Sorry for writing a post about it again but the word ‘chore’ is kind of a boring subject. It’s not even fun to write about. Writing about a job search is not that either so it’s actually a chore as well. An unpleasant thing, a routine. People with jobs don’t need to worry about job search the same way as a person without one. It seems people with a job can find a new job much easier. For a long-term unemployed (in Finland it’s over 500 days) it’s absolute hell. It’s so easy to say “get a job, any job” Does these people have any idea how job search works? You have to apply to them. You won’t get hired by just asking. Maybe they still live in the 1950s or something. Is not easy at all, I tell you that. Nothing is certain. Not even for those with a job. You can be laid off any day because of co-operation negotiations. If you get a job somewhere else, then you must be really lucky. Luck is what you need in a job search. Someone who tells you otherwise is lying. Being unemployed is more difficult than for others. They have families to support. Living on welfare is something no one voluntarily wants to be in forever.

While searching about job search on Google, I came across some forums where they spoke about their unemployment. Some of the comments were so stupid. One who had allergies and couldn’t be a nurse for example and this other person replies. “Why don’t they wear gloves? Or some other excuse. Those things won’t help. Having allergies myself, that’s the worse suggestion anyone could make. None of that will help. Even if you cover yourself up until you sweat like a pig, you still can’t do the job. Your allergies could only get worse. You can’t force someone to do a job they’re not suitable for. People who don’t understand about limitations shouldn’t give advice about job search at all. If you can do any job, then you really are lucky. You can apply to that nursery job or cleaning people’s houses. Some of us can’t do jobs like that. Besides, we can’t all be nurses, cleaners or even telemarketers. When you have limitations, you can’t change it.

This claim, if you really want work, you’ll find it, really is one a pet peeve of mine. It’s not about what you want, it’s about what the companies want. You can apply to hundreds of companies but you don’t even get an interview. If you really want to have the job you want, you must become self-employed. But not everyone is up to that either. It’s a shame job search seem to be for the extroverts. Marketing yourself and mastering the interview is like a nightmare for an introvert. Even if there are tips online for an introvert, they won’t work. At least not for me. I never know what comes out of my mouth or if anything at all. I haven’t got that many interviews to begin with so I can’t gain experience from job interviews. But I know how they will end. No job. Maybe I should retire and live on my savings because this job search is going nowhere. But I’m too young and my pension would be really small because I’ve never had a paid job. I’m also healthy so I can work. There are people who are too ill to work but they still are forced to look for one. Those are the ones who need to retire.

I’m too old to be changing occupations. My situation is different from the ones who write online about their job search. I found an occupation I like the best and I’m sticking to it. I have the skill, the age and the attitude. If that’s not good enough, I will find another way to find a job. If you give in, then you give in and that’s not an option.