The blaming game is so vintage

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What I hate the most is people who think they know what they’re talking about. The blaming game is so vintage. Just because their life has turned into a fairytale, it doesn’t mean everyone else had got as lucky. You don’t anything about a person if you haven’t walked in their shoes. Then these people giving advice about how they have found that perfect partner or that great job. Sorry to disappoint you but just because it has happened to you, it doesn’t mean it will work for everyone.

The people who get the most blamed for their being are poor and the unemployed. It’s like it’s their fault they live on the street. Or it’s the unemployed fault no one wants to hire them. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. It’s so easy for those who have a job and lots of money to complain about the less fortunate. I would like them so struggle through life as the poor or unemployed do. The world doesn’t work that everyone who tries will get success. People who blame others for the societies problems are part of it themselves. At least here in Finland, the politicians think it’s the unemployed own fault they haven’t got a job. That’s why they make up this active model where they punish the unemployed if they don’t apply for jobs. The unemployed do that anyway but still, they can’t get hired. The attitude problems lay elsewhere.

I find it quite amusing when these unemployed are without work for a few months and then get hired again. Then they say other unemployed are lazy. Well, good for you who got a job that easily but everyone isn’t as lucky. If you have been unemployed for 10 years or more and then get a job, then come back and brag about it. Then I will be so happy for you. Before that, I’m just gonna laugh at you. Being without a job for a few months or even 2 year is nothing. Blaming others for being lazy is a bad explanation. You shouldn’t generalise. There can be some lazy unemployed who does nothing to get a job. They don’t educate themselves or anything. They want the easy way out by collecting unemployment benefits. It’s only a small part but not all unemployed have the same attitude. I admit I’m quite lazy too but I haven’t just sat around and done nothing. I don’t want to be jobless the rest of my life. But all that studying hasn’t paid off but at least I’ve learned something new. I’m not gonna sit down this time either. I have that graphic design course in 44 days. Luckily no one has said to me personally that I’m lazy or anything like that. Even if someone did, I would just say, talk to the hand.

The blaming game is so vintage. How about blaming those who assume things? People need to get their facts right before judging. Things are not always the way they seem. Remember that.

Throw a dart at empty promises

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Life is like a TV commercial, promises that are said to help you. But the truth is they’re just a shell with no substance. You should do this and you should do that and a miracle will happen. I’ve had so many disappointments in my life I just want to throw a dart at empty promises. One of the promises I dislike the most is these networking channels like LinkedIn. I’ve been there for 5 years and I only have 7 connections. I think it’s just a place where popular people get noticed. Maybe the service just isn’t for Finnish people. Our country is too small for this kind of thing. If you don’t have connections from your past, there is no use for it. Then you hear stories from people who actually have to find a job through LinkedIn and you just think who did they bribe because that person must be really lucky. It’s just too good to be true. LinkedIn in a job search is useless. I will only keep it as a memo for my past educations and work experiences to remind myself. It doesn’t matter if my CV is in this service or sending paper versions to employers. The result will still be the same, no job.

The other empty promises are education. They say it’s important because you have a better chance to find a job. That’s just BS. All these qualifications are useless. You can have hundreds of them but still, no one wants to give you a chance. The same with internships. If you get one you can get your foot between the door, you might get a job there in the future. Yeah right. All you get is a good luck and they shut the door behind you. Then when you get older, it’s even harder to get “your foot between the door” You don’t even have a look in. The the only use you have for your qualifications is keeping you sane. If I wasn’t used to being unemployed, I would be worried and feel unwanted. Lucky for me, I’m alone and I don’t have to support anyone. It’s different for those who have a family. Some of them can’t even afford food. It’s really difficult to stay motivated when there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. All these tips about how to find a job are empty promises. I’ve never got anything by chance. I’m never in the right place at the right place. There are times I just want to give up and live on well-fare the rest of my life. But I want to have meaning with my life. I want a job and not become one of those lowlives who doesn’t even bother looking for a job. But because I’m not suitable for companies images, I don’t get anything.

You shouldn’t give hope to a person who’s been disappointed so many times. Nothing is worse than empty promises. Telling them to be patient doesn’t help either. How much patience must a person have anyway? Will it take years, decades or never? Politicians are known for their empty promises but it shouldn’t happen in daily life. You learn from empty promises by not getting your hopes up. That’s probably the only good thing that comes out of it. If it’s even good. Next someone promises me something, I’m just gonna ignore them because once you lose trust, it’s hard to get it back. Sometimes it’s gone for good.

Embrace yourself

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I’ve always been different. I never wanted to be the same way as everyone else. I was a tomboy who wasn’t afraid to get their hands dirty and I’m still the same. Everyone should embrace what they are. Unfortunately, there are people in society who doesn’t appreciate differences. In some countries, you can’t walk around in peace without someone stalking you or becoming violent towards you. Especially if your sexuality is not heterosexual. It’s a shame because we’re all human with wants and needs. No one should be penalised for being different. You should embrace yourself for that no matter what others might think.

My parents never questioned me about never going out like other people. Other teenagers had parties and had a lot of friends. If they would have I would I told them, would they rather see me meet the wrong crowd and get into drugs. I don’t think so. They should have been glad I wasn’t like everyone else. Luckily, I was lucky with parents. They never tried to change me. They wouldn’t have succeeded anyway because I was always strong-willed. I embrace myself for being me. Seeing how other people behave I’m glad I’m not like them.
For example, today I saw this young guy being so drunk, he couldn’t even stand. His friends had to carry him. I would be so embarrassed to have a friend like that who can’t control his drinking. I never understood how someone can drink alcohol so much they can’t even walk straight.

I’m also not like other women. That sounds in my head like the video ‘Thriller’ by Michael Jackson. The character he plays tells his girl he’s not like the other guys and then he turns into a werewolf. It’s not like that. Except if you upset me, I don’t know what I’ll do to you 😉 Seriously though. I prefer wearing jeans and sneakers to skirts and high heels. Some women stress about not finding Mr Right but I don’t. I don’t care about drama and I rather be alone than trying to please another person. I don’t need a man to be happy. Besides, I don’t like just anybody. I have standards. Anyway, all this women should do this and do that, is so demeaning. Like the reason for women to be here is to please the opposite sex. For some having a family is the main goal in life but not for everyone. The meaning of life to me is doing stuff you like without having to depend on someone else. Maybe I would have a different look on life if I had men in a queue behind me. But since I don’t, my priorities lay elsewhere. This quote says it all.

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I’m also a sports fan. I don’t watch it because of the way some athletes look. I don’t care about the glamour side of sport. Some women think sport is boring but I think it’s exciting. Especially when Finland plays. Nothing beats the feeling of seeing people giving it all. Sport brings people together. When I meet other women, I can never talk about sport to them. I can do girl talk but most of it doesn’t interest me. I just can’t relate to any of what women talk about. That’s why I feel more comfortable being around men. Sometimes it feels safer to be around other women though. The myth about women not liking their men watching sport doesn’t apply to me. If you don’t like sport then don’t watch it. Do something else that interests you. No matter what marital status the man is, they should be allowed to watch sport without having to hear nagging from a women.

Embrace yourself for who you are. Be happy to be alive. Things could be worse. We usually think of negative things about ourselves and forget all the good things. I wouldn’t want to be a person who can’t think for themselves. Common sense is a lost art. If you do stupid things, there are consequences. If you’re not careful, your life will be short and that’s not the meaning of life. I rather do things carefully than taking a big risk and lose it all. I’m planning to be on this planet for a very long time. I want to be different and not trying to be something I’m not. Other people just need to deal with it.