43 questions about me

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Next Tuesday (June 2) I turn 43. But age is nothing but a number. For some people birthdays can be embarrassing or they rather not make a big number of their age. Then there are these age crisis things. I didn’t have a 30 years crisis and not 40 years either. I had it at 25. I didn’t do anything special. I only felt I was useless and felt I hadn’t done anything I wanted to. Now I don’t care. You’re only as old as you feel. Other people’s opinions about your age don’t matter. I wouldn’t want to be in any other age because now I have the knowledge I didn’t have when I was younger. Instead of being outdoors in the warm and sunny weather, I made this list.

To ‘celebrate’ my birthday, here are various questions I found online. Trying to find 43 questions wasn’t easy. Most of the questions are from this site. It’s quite a long read so don’t rush it.

Some boring questions first

What is your full name?
Mia Eva-Stina Salminen

What is your height?
5’7″ last time I checked

What is your favourite colour?
Blue and purple

Sexual orientation?
Straight but why label it? You are what you are. I respect all sexualities because, in the end, we’re all human.

What colour are your eyes and hair?
Dark blue eyes. The hair colour depends if it’s clean or not. It also gets darker with age. When I was a child it was blonde. Maybe it’s more light brown these days.

This is where it gets more interesting

What TV shows are you into?
I’m mostly into old TV shows and especially comedies. A lot of TV shows have ended and I haven’t found anything new to watch. I’m a fan of Game of Thrones and Prison break. I also like game shows like ‘Who wants to be a millionaire?’ I hate most of the reality shows. Or cheating shows as I call them.

Where would you rather be from?
If I wasn’t from Finland it would either be Sweden or the UK. But I love Finland the best so I wouldn’t want to change it.

What movies do you like?
As in TV shows, I love comedies. Jim Carrey is one of my favourites. I also love Lord of the rings trilogy and no matter what others might think, The Hobbit trilogy. There are a lot of movies I’ve seen several times so I don’t have an absolute favourite.

What job would you be terrible at?
Anything that has to do with Math. I’m not very good with numbers. I also would be a terrible teacher. You need patience in that and I would just get upset at the student.

What skill would you like to master?
I wish I could be better at making websites but I hate coding. There are of course ready themes but apparently, you shouldn’t use them. I also wish I was better at graphic design.

What takes up too much of your time?
Being online. Also sleeping too long. I never have time to do anything because I sleep late.

What mystery do you wish you knew the answer to?
Why certain people have to urge to act stupid. Especially young people. I also wonder why some people believe in stereotypes. I also can’t believe there is still racism around.

What do you consider to be your best find?
The best find is that I finally know what I want to do for a living. It’s just that I don’t know if I ever be good enough.

What fictional character do you really wish would exist?
If I said Loki, would you hold him against me? In a way, he already does. Not with that name but there already are divas who wanted attention because they didn’t get it at home the way they wished.

What popular TV show or movie do you refuse to watch?
I refuse to watch reality shows like Love Island or Big Brother. I don’t care about other people problems. A movie I refuse to watch is ‘American Psycho’ with Christian Bale. Even though he’s one of my favourite actors. That movie is so creepy so no thank you.

What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?
I don’t if it’s impressive but I can make up tunes with the recorder by just listening.

What game or movie universe would you most like to live in?
Lord of the rings without all that war. I would live in Rivendell. It one beautiful places in that universe.

If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?
What I do now. Blogging, writing fiction, cycling, watch movies, eat candy/sweets etc.

What is something you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?
Live in solitude somewhere where there are no other people around and only the birds singing.

What’s something you’ve been meaning to try but just haven’t gotten around to it?
Entrepreneurship but the work to find paying clients is the reason why I don’t start. The other thing is not being confident enough about my skills.

If you were dictator of a small island nation, what crazy dictator stuff would you do?
Not crazy but healthy. All smokers are not allowed and no drunk people either. Or too noisy people.

What is something that a ton of people are obsessed with, but you just don’t get the point of?
Fashion in general and people using toe sandals. Especially men, such a turn-off. The same with Crocs. Yuck.

What irrational fear do you have?
Hating needles. That’s one reason why I don’t donate blood. Some might not think it’s nothing to be afraid of but just the thought of a needle is distressing.

Have you ever given to any charities?
No, I don’t have that kind of money. I’ve been to two charity football matches though so in a way I have.

What’s the last adventure you went on?
When I studied graphic design in Helsinki last year. I travelled there alone twice a month. That is an adventure in my eyes. Also walking or cycling outside is an adventure in itself.

What is something you will NEVER do again?
Eat sushi. I tasted it once but I didn’t like it. I don’t know how somebody can. But we all have different tastes.

What do you hope your last words will be?
“I wish I could have seen him” OK, that’s a quote from Lord of the rings. Maybe my last words would be “I have a million euros in a deposit box and the code is….” Then I die. There isn’t any money though 😆

What’s the best thing you got from your parents?
To be myself and have respect for others.

What’s the best and worst thing about getting older?
The best thing is that you’re wiser and the worst people think you’re getting too old.

What is something you are certain you’ll never experience?
A personal thing. I’ll never get to experience passionate love. Someone who likes you the way you are and don’t expect for you to be like everyone else. Someone who can’t stay away from you. I know I’ll never have that and especially with certain men. That’s all I’m saying about that.

What is something that your friends wouldn’t believe was true about you?
I have a dirty mind. Even if I don’t have personal experiences about a certain thing, I can still imagine it.

If you could make one rule that everyone had to follow, what rule would you make?
Be nice to others and don’t judge before you get to know a person.

If you could have a video of anyone in your life, what event would you choose?
My mother, my sister and both of my grandmothers when they were all alive. Especially Christmas.

If you had a clock that would countdown to any one event of your choosing, what event would you want it to countdown to?
I already have. A countdown to Elton John’s concert in September. But we’ll see if it will happen.

Have you had any pets and what’s your favourite pets?
Never had any pets because my sister was allergic. I’ve always liked bunnies. It was the only animal I wasn’t afraid of.

What are you addicted to?
Certain male voices. And music.

Have you met any celebrities?
Finnish one’s only. I never meet any foreign celebrities. Ski jumper Janne Ahonen. I got his autograph. And TV presenter Roope Salminen. He’s a big star in Finland and so down-to-earth.

Have you ever been to the hospital?
Visited and been a patient. My big sister was ill a lot so I never liked hospitals. Luckily I’ve only been twice as a patient.

Last but not least

If you were a super-hero, what powers would you have?
Mind control or moving around unseen. Maybe both.

What’s the tallest building you’ve been to the top in?
Ski jumping tower in Lahti, Finland.

©Mia Salminen 2009

Who is your hero?
It varies. It’s more about actions than a person. There are people I admire, like actors but also normal people. My parents can be heroes. The went through a lot and still managed. They were married for at least 40 years before my mother died.

What song always gets you out on the dance floor?
I don’t like dancing. Not the song by that band I can’t remember the name of right now. I just don’t like dancing. I rather watch others dance.

What’s your guilty pleasure?
Like Tom Hiddleston once said. Something like. My guilty pleasure is not having a guilty pleasure. I would say I do have pleasures but I don’t feel guilty about them. I don’t pretend to like something I don’t like.

If you got this far then bravo. You deserve a big hug. Thank you for reading.

Not all nomads are lost

When I started blogging in 2014, I didn’t know what kind of blog I would have. I knew it wouldn’t be the same as everyone else. I wanted it to be different. I also didn’t want my life to be out there on the internet. I’m a private person and I don’t have anything interesting to say. I just wanted to write things down and share it with others. In the beginning, I was disappointed I didn’t get any likes. There are still blog posts that don’t get many. Like the last post. It only got 2 likes. Maybe some got a little more. Maybe I just don’t have anything new to say so I repeat things. You would think people would have time to read blogs right now but I guess not. It just feels like people only like the blog post picture and don’t read at all. Maybe I’m just expecting too much. This is already the 7th year and still, it feels like I’ve just begun. Whatever reason, I’m still gonna blog though because I’m doing it for me. And to practice English.

I’m not that excited about blogging like I used to be. I just feel I have nothing new to say. I’m a nomad because I don’t really know where I’m going with this blog anymore. Luckily I only blog as a hobby so I don’t have to write if I don’t feel like it. If I earned money for blogging it would feel forced to write something. Now I have a choice and if I don’t have anything to write then I don’t. Some people think blogging is for business only but you can also have it as a hobby. So not all nomads are lost. You can find your motivation at your own pace and that’s what blogging is all about. Making yourself feel good and maybe someone else will relate to you too.

It’s sabotage to get told what to do

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Do this and you get that. If you don’t do what you are told you will get into trouble or don’t get anything. It’s sabotage to get told what to do with your own life. Not just your life but other things you do. Or don’t do. I don’t really have a point in this post. All I know is what sabotage is when you want to be yourself but is not allowed to. People should have the right to be whatever sexuality they are without having to announce it to the world. But some people have the urge to know everything about everyone. I don’t get this “getting out of the closet” when someone announces they are gay or any other sexuality. Straight people never have to announce they’re straight. What’s up with that? Isn’t it because it’s “normal”? And why are gay people living in a closet? I guess there is so much prejudice so people are embarrassed to be different when it shouldn’t be. Some people have attitude problems towards certain people. I don’t know how people like that can live with themselves. I welcome everyone no matter who they are. As long as they’re nice people. Negative and disrespectful people don’t have a place in my life.

Some things feel like sabotage. Like job search. I did get again a message “Thanks for replying but you’re not chosen” for that packaging thing I mentioned in this post. When then, I wonder. They probably chose someone in their 20s. Well, I didn’t want it that bad anyway. That thought makes me feel less worthless. Not that I feel worthless. Some people are embarrassed they’re unemployed so they don’t tell many people. I’m not that fussy. If people think I’m lazy, let them. I’m in my 40s and I should find a job much easier than someone in their 50s. Easier, not easy. But I guess my resume isn’t “sexy” enough. They said you should apply for jobs outside your own field. I did but I didn’t get anywhere. So there goes that theory. At least I can tell the jobcentre I did apply for a job. I don’t know if I should tell them about the graphic design education in Helsinki Design School though. It’s been a while since that ended so maybe not. Why does job searching make me feel so old? I have a lot of energy left but there are too many gaps in my resume. Educations are worth nothing.

Sometimes it feels like sabotage in social media. It’s like someone have said, “don’t like or post anything to that person” Which is just paranoia. I’m no one famous and not many know me on social media. I don’t know why I don’t get that many likes and such. Even on this blog, I don’t get as many likes I used to. Are my blog posts uninterested? Have I told everything and my posts are repeating themselves? Questions like that entered my mind. It really depends on what I write about. On Twitter, I get likes when TV programs are on. Or if it’s tweeting about Formula One. But if I share a blog post or tweet about something else, then I don’t get any. I will never get thousands of likes anywhere but I’m not expecting that either. Some people do anything to get likes to their posts and then they get on the news. ‘This person got 500 00 likes in an hour’ And then the photo they’ve posted isn’t even anything special. People just like weird things. If I posted something like that, it probably wouldn’t even get noticed. Then again I’m just assuming. My motives for social media is different from others. I don’t seek big audiences. It’s the quality that matters.

You can also sabotage your own future by doing crimes. Or even post drunk photos on social media. I don’t know why people do that in the first place. Who wants to see that kind of photos anyway. Know one wants to hire a boozer or even be friends with one. Drunk people are boring as well. Some people think if you don’t smoke and drink you don’t know how to have fun. Well, you can sabotage your own health and your future as much as you want. But I don’t want to live my life that. It’s just isn’t my kind of fun and it has never been. I find parties boring and a waste of energy. I rather stay home alone and do something by myself. If that sounds boring then so be it. Sabotage my solitude then you can think again. Just saying.