Three reasons why I don’t apply for a job

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It’s so easy to mock the unemployed. ’Get a job’, they say. OK, do you have one for me? No? I thought not. You just can’t go to a workplace and ask. It doesn’t work like that anymore. You need to apply and be the right person. There is so much more you need to do. They won’t hire just anybody. These people who complain about people who don’t have a job have no lamp in their minds to find a solution to a problem. I made a list of reasons why I don’t apply for a job.

1 . I have some of the qualifications, but I know they won’t hire me, so I won’t use my time and energy

People say you should still apply, but I see no point in using my time to write applications when I know I won’t even get an interview. There is always someone with more experience than I have anyway. I rather do something else than stress about writing cover letters etc. I’m not very good at writing them. My portfolio is not that good either. I have not much to offer for employers. They take people with job experience and youth. All I have in my resume are internships. I haven’t been paid a salary. Only once, and that was last year when I worked as a media assistant.

2 . There are no suitable jobs to apply to

This is probably the biggest problem, to find a job to apply to. Sure there are a lot of jobs out there, but they’re never suitable for my skills and educations. They say you should apply for a job that you don’t necessarily need an education for. Yes, but doesn’t it take away from a person who does have it? Besides, I already tried that approach, but I didn’t get any. I’ve applied for rental work, but it was pointless to apply. It was a storage worker job. Not getting a job is not about being picky. It’s about having good luck to get one. When there is a job to apply for, I don’t have the skills and experience they need.

3 . I won’t apply for the job because it’s in another city

Most jobs are in another town. You can’t just leave like that. You need to find a place to live. Travelling from home to work every day isn’t much fun. It doesn’t suit me either. Remote jobs would be better, but there isn’t many of those. Even if I have a driver’s license now, I’m not into driving long distances. You shouldn’t have to move to another city just to get a job.

There might be other reasons why I don’t apply for a job. But the reason is not health issues. I’m a healthy person and have no problems with working. Just because I haven’t had a job for a while, it doesn’t mean I’m not capable of working. Some people can’t work, but they’re still forced to find a job. Complainers should think twice before mocking the unemployed. Not everyone is the same. Most people do want a job, but they’re not blessed with one. It’s easy to judge others when your own life is complete, and you don’t have to worry about job search. But anyone can lose their jobs, so never say never. You need to experience unemployment to know what it’s really like. There have always been people who think they have a solution to a problem and think their advice is helpful. They don’t see they’re part of the problem.

43 questions about me

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Next Tuesday (June 2) I turn 43. But age is nothing but a number. For some people birthdays can be embarrassing or they rather not make a big number of their age. Then there are these age crisis things. I didn’t have a 30 years crisis and not 40 years either. I had it at 25. I didn’t do anything special. I only felt I was useless and felt I hadn’t done anything I wanted to. Now I don’t care. You’re only as old as you feel. Other people’s opinions about your age don’t matter. I wouldn’t want to be in any other age because now I have the knowledge I didn’t have when I was younger. Instead of being outdoors in the warm and sunny weather, I made this list.

To ‘celebrate’ my birthday, here are various questions I found online. Trying to find 43 questions wasn’t easy. Most of the questions are from this site. It’s quite a long read so don’t rush it.

Some boring questions first

What is your full name?
Mia Eva-Stina Salminen

What is your height?
5’7″ last time I checked

What is your favourite colour?
Blue and purple

Sexual orientation?
Straight but why label it? You are what you are. I respect all sexualities because, in the end, we’re all human.

What colour are your eyes and hair?
Dark blue eyes. The hair colour depends if it’s clean or not. It also gets darker with age. When I was a child it was blonde. Maybe it’s more light brown these days.

This is where it gets more interesting

What TV shows are you into?
I’m mostly into old TV shows and especially comedies. A lot of TV shows have ended and I haven’t found anything new to watch. I’m a fan of Game of Thrones and Prison break. I also like game shows like ‘Who wants to be a millionaire?’ I hate most of the reality shows. Or cheating shows as I call them.

Where would you rather be from?
If I wasn’t from Finland it would either be Sweden or the UK. But I love Finland the best so I wouldn’t want to change it.

What movies do you like?
As in TV shows, I love comedies. Jim Carrey is one of my favourites. I also love Lord of the rings trilogy and no matter what others might think, The Hobbit trilogy. There are a lot of movies I’ve seen several times so I don’t have an absolute favourite.

What job would you be terrible at?
Anything that has to do with Math. I’m not very good with numbers. I also would be a terrible teacher. You need patience in that and I would just get upset at the student.

What skill would you like to master?
I wish I could be better at making websites but I hate coding. There are of course ready themes but apparently, you shouldn’t use them. I also wish I was better at graphic design.

What takes up too much of your time?
Being online. Also sleeping too long. I never have time to do anything because I sleep late.

What mystery do you wish you knew the answer to?
Why certain people have to urge to act stupid. Especially young people. I also wonder why some people believe in stereotypes. I also can’t believe there is still racism around.

What do you consider to be your best find?
The best find is that I finally know what I want to do for a living. It’s just that I don’t know if I ever be good enough.

What fictional character do you really wish would exist?
If I said Loki, would you hold him against me? In a way, he already does. Not with that name but there already are divas who wanted attention because they didn’t get it at home the way they wished.

What popular TV show or movie do you refuse to watch?
I refuse to watch reality shows like Love Island or Big Brother. I don’t care about other people problems. A movie I refuse to watch is ‘American Psycho’ with Christian Bale. Even though he’s one of my favourite actors. That movie is so creepy so no thank you.

What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?
I don’t if it’s impressive but I can make up tunes with the recorder by just listening.

What game or movie universe would you most like to live in?
Lord of the rings without all that war. I would live in Rivendell. It one beautiful places in that universe.

If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?
What I do now. Blogging, writing fiction, cycling, watch movies, eat candy/sweets etc.

What is something you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?
Live in solitude somewhere where there are no other people around and only the birds singing.

What’s something you’ve been meaning to try but just haven’t gotten around to it?
Entrepreneurship but the work to find paying clients is the reason why I don’t start. The other thing is not being confident enough about my skills.

If you were dictator of a small island nation, what crazy dictator stuff would you do?
Not crazy but healthy. All smokers are not allowed and no drunk people either. Or too noisy people.

What is something that a ton of people are obsessed with, but you just don’t get the point of?
Fashion in general and people using toe sandals. Especially men, such a turn-off. The same with Crocs. Yuck.

What irrational fear do you have?
Hating needles. That’s one reason why I don’t donate blood. Some might not think it’s nothing to be afraid of but just the thought of a needle is distressing.

Have you ever given to any charities?
No, I don’t have that kind of money. I’ve been to two charity football matches though so in a way I have.

What’s the last adventure you went on?
When I studied graphic design in Helsinki last year. I travelled there alone twice a month. That is an adventure in my eyes. Also walking or cycling outside is an adventure in itself.

What is something you will NEVER do again?
Eat sushi. I tasted it once but I didn’t like it. I don’t know how somebody can. But we all have different tastes.

What do you hope your last words will be?
“I wish I could have seen him” OK, that’s a quote from Lord of the rings. Maybe my last words would be “I have a million euros in a deposit box and the code is….” Then I die. There isn’t any money though 😆

What’s the best thing you got from your parents?
To be myself and have respect for others.

What’s the best and worst thing about getting older?
The best thing is that you’re wiser and the worst people think you’re getting too old.

What is something you are certain you’ll never experience?
A personal thing. I’ll never get to experience passionate love. Someone who likes you the way you are and don’t expect for you to be like everyone else. Someone who can’t stay away from you. I know I’ll never have that and especially with certain men. That’s all I’m saying about that.

What is something that your friends wouldn’t believe was true about you?
I have a dirty mind. Even if I don’t have personal experiences about a certain thing, I can still imagine it.

If you could make one rule that everyone had to follow, what rule would you make?
Be nice to others and don’t judge before you get to know a person.

If you could have a video of anyone in your life, what event would you choose?
My mother, my sister and both of my grandmothers when they were all alive. Especially Christmas.

If you had a clock that would countdown to any one event of your choosing, what event would you want it to countdown to?
I already have. A countdown to Elton John’s concert in September. But we’ll see if it will happen.

Have you had any pets and what’s your favourite pets?
Never had any pets because my sister was allergic. I’ve always liked bunnies. It was the only animal I wasn’t afraid of.

What are you addicted to?
Certain male voices. And music.

Have you met any celebrities?
Finnish one’s only. I never meet any foreign celebrities. Ski jumper Janne Ahonen. I got his autograph. And TV presenter Roope Salminen. He’s a big star in Finland and so down-to-earth.

Have you ever been to the hospital?
Visited and been a patient. My big sister was ill a lot so I never liked hospitals. Luckily I’ve only been twice as a patient.

Last but not least

If you were a super-hero, what powers would you have?
Mind control or moving around unseen. Maybe both.

What’s the tallest building you’ve been to the top in?
Ski jumping tower in Lahti, Finland.

©Mia Salminen 2009

Who is your hero?
It varies. It’s more about actions than a person. There are people I admire, like actors but also normal people. My parents can be heroes. The went through a lot and still managed. They were married for at least 40 years before my mother died.

What song always gets you out on the dance floor?
I don’t like dancing. Not the song by that band I can’t remember the name of right now. I just don’t like dancing. I rather watch others dance.

What’s your guilty pleasure?
Like Tom Hiddleston once said. Something like. My guilty pleasure is not having a guilty pleasure. I would say I do have pleasures but I don’t feel guilty about them. I don’t pretend to like something I don’t like.

If you got this far then bravo. You deserve a big hug. Thank you for reading.

10 dance songs to listen to

break dance

I listen to all kinds of music and dance is one of them. I like listening to them but not so much dancing. The ’90s was a Euro-disco period so a lot of those are from that period. The list below is my 10 favourite dance songs to listen to. And dance, if you like. These are not in order so number one doesn’t mean it’s my top favourite and so on. I have no special reason why they are my favourite. They just sound good and most of the lyrics I know by heart. Let’s dance (or listen)

  1. Here I go again (E-type)
  2. Don’t stop the music (Rihanna)
  3. Look away (Darude)
  4. Let the dream come true (DJ Bobo)
  5. Waiting for Tonight (Jennifer Lopez)
  6. It’s a rainy day (Ice MC)
  7. I give you my heart (Mr President)
  8. Tears don’t lie (Mark ‘Oh)
  9. Get ready for this (2 unlimited)
  10. Breathe (The Prodigy)

There is a lot more where that came from. I have made a dance list on Spotify if anyone is interested to listen.