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Happy New Year 2025!

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©Mia Salminen 2023

This is the last post of 2014, and a new year is approaching. It’s my first New Year without anybody, but I don’t feel lonely. I might be alone but not lonely, so don’t feel sorry for me. I’m a loner, and a new year won’t change that. People make New Year resolutions, but I don’t because you never know what will happen. I don’t make them because why should I lie? You shouldn’t make promises you can’t keep.

My New Year will be as it has been for a couple of years. I’m going to see fireworks for children in the park nearby, then get back home and watch TV. New Year’s Eve isn’t a big deal to me. It’s a typical day, except there are fireworks outside and the World Ice Hockey Junior Championships on TV. When the year changes, there will be a lot of fireworks outside that I can see outside the window, so I don’t need to go anywhere. When you’ve seen one firework, you’ve seen them all. As a kid, they were a big deal, but not anymore. They should ban fireworks for people altogether. They pollute and scare animals, and a lot of idiots shoot them days before the new year. Every year, there are eye injuries because people are too stupid to wear goggles when they handle fireworks. Then, vandals use them in places where they shouldn’t, and hell breaks lose. There should be other ways to celebrate New Year without fireworks. Only the authorities should be allowed to shoot fireworks, not the people.

So, have a Happy New Year 2025 (with or without fireworks). Let’s hope it’s a safe one.

The unsociable parasite

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The blog post title doesn’t necessarily mean I think of myself of being the unsociable parasite. It’s more about what people might think of me. I’m not gregarious at all. I’m more of a loner. Sometimes I need interaction with other people but I can live without it. If I had a choice I would never leave the house. All I would need is a computer and an internet connection. But I don’t want to live my life like that. I also like being outside. I would seek for solitude in nature or even take a walk outside where I wouldn’t meet a single person. Big crowds only make me tired and stressed. Especially queues where people breathe down my neck.

In this loud world where people who like solitude and are unsociable are seen as parasites. Introverted people are needed as much as extroverted. We can’t all be the same. Being social doesn’t even mean talking. You can still be social by observing and listening to others. The problem with this world is not enough of listening. Everyone seems to be in a hurry. No one wants to share either. Not until disaster strikes then a lot of people want to be helpful. Social media is not much better. If you want advice no one gives you one. You don’t get any help from anyone. Or maybe it’s just me who doesn’t. I guess you need to have a lot of followers. If you want anything done, you have to do it yourself.

In the working life, the unemployed are seen as some kind of parasite. The longer you are out of work, the less you’re wanted. And even worse when you’re an introvert. I think that’s one of the reasons why I never had a real paid job. I don’t belong anywhere so, therefore, I’m a parasite. In the employer’s eyes that is. Last time I were anywhere it was in 2012 and that was only 2 weeks. There they said I wasn’t social enough. How would they know anyway? Well, it’s old news and I don’t dwell on that any longer. I don’t even feel like going anywhere in the morning. I’m not saying I will never look for a job again but it looks unlikely I will get any in 2020.

I wouldn’t want to be gregarious anyway because then I wouldn’t be who I am. I hate faking things which seems to be required in some cases. I’m also a bad actress and I can’t act social when I’m not. People would see right through me if I pretended to be talkative. If people think I’m the unsociable parasite then so be it. It’s not my concern because they don’t know me. I know from personal experience that some people don’t even bother getting to know you. They rely on stereotypes and live by that. Some get to know a person before they judge but I haven’t met one yet who does. If I have it was a long time ago. We shouldn’t ignore differences, we should welcome it. That’s how the world should work.