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Laughable things I’ve heard in my life

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You probably heard the expression, ‘kids say the darnest things.’ But the reason they say laughable things is that they haven’t lived long enough to know things. They don’t see life as adults. You don’t get defended, you just think, well, they’re just kids, and you let it go.

But when adults say or do laughable things behind your back or to your face, it’s not as nice. You get offended and maybe cry, and at the time, it’s not laughable. You feel as if that hurt feeling won’t go away. You might think there is something wrong with you when people say or do offensive things to you.

What’s great about becoming an adult is when you begin to think about how laughable other people’s behaviour against you was. Life experiences change you, and you see life differently. Things that happened when you were a kid and a teenager are irrelevant when you become an adult. People who were in your life then, like schoolmates, are just laughable now. If they hurt your feelings, then you laugh at it now because the people were laughable. The next time, the words or actions bounce off you.

I’ve heard many laughable things during my 48-year-old life. They weren’t laughable then, but now they are when thinking about it. I won’t understand why people can’t keep things to themselves. They probably felt better about themselves if they said it or whispered it to their friends. Toxic people don’t have a place in my life. In anyone’s life.

The first one I remember was when I was probably in 3rd grade, and one of the boys in my class told me I had dirty teeth. That’s hurt me, so I didn’t go to class because of it. I was a sensitive and shy kid. So, I hadn’t brushed them, but so what? No need to point it out.

In 1997, I studied business for a few months. There was this guy in my class who asked me if I had been in a horror movie. I asked why, and he said no reason. So he didn’t like my appearance. It wasn’t like he was an oil painting. I didn’t care about his stupid comment anyway. I should have asked if he’s been in one, but I didn’t think about it then. It really was laughable. Strange that some people criticize someone’s appearance when themselve don’t look anything special. They should keep it to themselves.

One case that wasn’t anything personal, but it was quite laughable when I think about it now. I studied web design in 2017. We had on-the-learning period where we had to find clients to design websites. I got contacted by a possible client. But they said they wanted an more experienced designer. Now, that doesn’t make any sense. I was a student, and I did it for free. If you want an experienced designer, you need to pay for one. No professional does it for free.

The latest laughable thing was when I got a comment in a fan fiction that I’m writing. I don’t remember exactly how it was since I deleted it. Something like I’m wasting my life, and others are living their lives. And yadda, yadda. Who’s wasting their life for real? People who waste their time on commenting on fan fiction, that’s who. Perhaps they don’t like real person fiction or how the story goes. It doesn’t matter. I want to have real comments about the story, and not people complaining about other things. The comment wasn’t only a few lines. The person used a lot of energy on their comment, so they must have a lot of time on their hands. I won’t stop writing because someone says something negative. Writing fan fiction is my way of relaxing and learn writing in English. If everyone who writes stopped at negative feedback, no one would write anything, and the world would be a boring place.

Certain people have negative energy, and they don’t want anyone to try anything. You can’t do this, or you can’t do this. Nice attitude there. Luckily, people still do different things no matter what others say. You might not like what people do or how they look, but you should still have respect for others. There is too much negativity in the world anyway, so spread some positivity instead.

Respect yourself and others

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-Respect by Aretha Franklin

Yesterday the music world was saddened with the news Aretha Franklin passed away at 76. I’ve only listened to some of her songs and ‘Respect‘ is one of them. I also saw her in the Blues Brothers movie. Even though her life had a lot of sorrow, she still managed to become very successful. It just proves you can become something no matter from what background you come from. Most of all you have to respect yourself. If you listen to criticism and negative thinking, you won’t get far. There is always someone who says you can’t do things because [excuse here] You should do things you like and not because something is popular or because someone says you shouldn’t. You should not only have respect for yourself but also have respect for others.

This MeToo campaign has proved men who can’t keep their hands to themselves have no respect for women (and some men too) Respect is learned from home. These creeps probably had a mother who didn’t teach their little boys to have respect. Some women also sexually harass men and that’s because they haven’t learned respect either. Then these paparazzi who follow celebrities have no respect for privacy. Celebrities are human too. They should have the right to go on holiday without having to worry about nosy and money hungry beasts. Not forgetting people who actually read these gossip columns. They’re part of the problem too. I would never want to be famous because then you’re public property and I couldn’t go anywhere without being harassed by disrespecting people. Besides, I hate people looking at me.

You should respect differences and not judge the book by its cover. We can’t all be the same. Every life is precious and you can’t decide who have the right to be on this earth. There’s a lot of prejudice in the world. Some think disabled people, for example, are dumb but if you look behind that disability, they’re like everyone else. I went to school with people with a disability and they were all very nice people. They have a totally different look on life. They’re even nicer than so-called normal people. Unfortunately, they don’t seem to have the same rights as others. Especially in work life. If they get a job, it’s usually without pay. There a lot of jobs disabled can do. Anyone can become disabled. You could get into an accident and then your life changes completely. I really have a full respect for people with a disability. We all could learn a lot from them.

Respect can be so easily lost. One big mistake and all that respect are gone. All those people you knew in the past turned out to be fake. You thought they were your friends and you respected them but then they turned against you. Telling lies about you and spreading rumours. They could have been people you looked up to but then they failed you. Those kinds you things, you know. Once that happens you will never get that respect back no matter how they try to ask for your forgiveness. You should treat people with respect and if they don’t respect you, they’re not worth having around. Life is too short to have toxic people in your life. Jealousy has always been around and the only thing to avoid it is to move these people from your life altogether.  The most important thing is your own happiness and having people around who have respect for you is part of it.

If you don’t respect my opinions I won’t respect yours

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You write something online (a blog or whatever) and then some take it personally. They tell you you’re wrong. They tell you can’t criticize or say anything negative about anything. They tell you what you should post. If you write your opinions, they can’t take it so they unfollow you.

That kind of followers are not worth having. If you don’t respect my opinion, I won’t respect yours. Tumblr is full of these who are afraid of criticism. But what to expect from teenagers. They take everything seriously. What kind of person unfollows a blog or any social media just because they don’t agree. We can’t always get along. Those people probably can’t handle conflicts in real life either.

I won’t lose sleep if people unfollow me. It’s their problem, not mine. I don’t keep a blog to please people. I might write negative things but I’m not aiming it on anyone personally. It’s my blog and I write what I like. If I criticise it, it’s my business. Not just this blog but also on the internet in general. Especially on Tumblr where people only seem to care about how many followers they get. Sometimes I do wonder why am I not getting much. I’ve already been there since 2012. I have 4 different one’s. I hardly get even likes no matter what I post in them. Even this post will go to the randomlythings. But that’s beside the point.

The most frustrated is The Blacklist one. It’s soon one year old but I have only 65 followers. That’s better than nothing but still not much going on there. Why do people even follow if they don’t interact. Just wondering. But again, I won’t lose sleep over it. The show came back from a break and now it’s back on. And yet nothing much going on when it comes to reblogs or likes. But I’m just impatient when it comes to waiting.

So much work with Tumblr. All that work goes to waste if no one reacts. I dislike unnecessary work. It’s like cleaning. No matter how much you do it, it’s still gonna get dirty again. You need motivations from others to keep doing it. The same goes with photography and writing. If no one gives you feedback, how can you learn getting better. I can’t. I just let it be and don’t even try. Because what’s the point? I don’t know how to get better. When I do, how will I know if no one doesn’t tell me.

I can handle negative criticism as long as I get something positive out of it. I wish I could say the same for some. People are just too afraid to hurt people’s feelings so they hold their opinions to themselves. If you don’t like me, just say so because I’m sure I won’t like you either. But be careful you don’t sound insulting because I can be as insulting as you and you don’t want to see that side of me.

You know what they say, opinions are like a§§h0les, we all got one.