Respect yourself and others

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-Respect by Aretha Franklin

Yesterday the music world was saddened with the news Aretha Franklin passed away at 76. I’ve only listened to some of her songs and ‘Respect‘ is one of them. I also saw her in the Blues Brothers movie. Even though her life had a lot of sorrow, she still managed to become very successful. It just proves you can become something no matter from what background you come from. Most of all you have to respect yourself. If you listen to criticism and negative thinking, you won’t get far. There is always someone who says you can’t do things because [excuse here] You should do things you like and not because something is popular or because someone says you shouldn’t. You should not only have respect for yourself but also have respect for others.

This MeToo campaign has proved men who can’t keep their hands to themselves have no respect for women (and some men too) Respect is learned from home. These creeps probably had a mother who didn’t teach their little boys to have respect. Some women also sexually harass men and that’s because they haven’t learned respect either. Then these paparazzi who follow celebrities have no respect for privacy. Celebrities are human too. They should have the right to go on holiday without having to worry about nosy and money hungry beasts. Not forgetting people who actually read these gossip columns. They’re part of the problem too. I would never want to be famous because then you’re public property and I couldn’t go anywhere without being harassed by disrespecting people. Besides, I hate people looking at me.

You should respect differences and not judge the book by its cover. We can’t all be the same. Every life is precious and you can’t decide who have the right to be on this earth. There’s a lot of prejudice in the world. Some think disabled people, for example, are dumb but if you look behind that disability, they’re like everyone else. I went to school with people with a disability and they were all very nice people. They have a totally different look on life. They’re even nicer than so-called normal people. Unfortunately, they don’t seem to have the same rights as others. Especially in work life. If they get a job, it’s usually without pay. There a lot of jobs disabled can do. Anyone can become disabled. You could get into an accident and then your life changes completely. I really have a full respect for people with a disability. We all could learn a lot from them.

Respect can be so easily lost. One big mistake and all that respect are gone. All those people you knew in the past turned out to be fake. You thought they were your friends and you respected them but then they turned against you. Telling lies about you and spreading rumours. They could have been people you looked up to but then they failed you. Those kinds you things, you know. Once that happens you will never get that respect back no matter how they try to ask for your forgiveness. You should treat people with respect and if they don’t respect you, they’re not worth having around. Life is too short to have toxic people in your life. Jealousy has always been around and the only thing to avoid it is to move these people from your life altogether.  The most important thing is your own happiness and having people around who have respect for you is part of it.

If you don’t respect my opinions I won’t respect yours


You write something online (a blog or whatever) and then some take it personally. They tell you you’re wrong. They tell you can’t criticize or say anything negative about anything. They tell you what you should post. If you write your opinions, they can’t take it so they unfollow you.

That kind of followers are not worth having. If you don’t respect my opinion, I won’t respect yours. Tumblr is full of these who are afraid of criticism. But what to expect from teenagers. They take everything seriously. What kind of person unfollows a blog or any social media just because they don’t agree. We can’t always get along. Those people probably can’t handle conflicts in real life either.

I won’t lose sleep if people unfollow me. It’s their problem, not mine. I don’t keep a blog to please people. I might write negative things but I’m not aiming it on anyone personally. It’s my blog and I write what I like. If I criticise it, it’s my business. Not just this blog but also on the internet in general. Especially on Tumblr where people only seem to care about how many followers they get. Sometimes I do wonder why am I not getting much. I’ve already been there since 2012. I have 4 different one’s. I hardly get even likes no matter what I post in them. Even this post will go to the randomlythings. But that’s beside the point.

The most frustrated is The Blacklist one. It’s soon one year old but I have only 65 followers. That’s better than nothing but still not much going on there. Why do people even follow if they don’t interact. Just wondering. But again, I won’t lose sleep over it. The show came back from a break and now it’s back on. And yet nothing much going on when it comes to reblogs or likes. But I’m just impatient when it comes to waiting.

So much work with Tumblr. All that work goes to waste if no one reacts. I dislike unnecessary work. It’s like cleaning. No matter how much you do it, it’s still gonna get dirty again. You need motivations from others to keep doing it. The same goes with photography and writing. If no one gives you feedback, how can you learn getting better. I can’t. I just let it be and don’t even try. Because what’s the point? I don’t know how to get better. When I do, how will I know if no one doesn’t tell me.

I can handle negative criticism as long as I get something positive out of it. I wish I could say the same for some. People are just too afraid to hurt people’s feelings so they hold their opinions to themselves. If you don’t like me, just say so because I’m sure I won’t like you either. But be careful you don’t sound insulting because I can be as insulting as you and you don’t want to see that side of me.

You know what they say, opinions are like a§§h0les, we all got one.