A wheel is better than no wheel at all

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On July 15, 2024, I’ve had the driver’s license for three years. At first, I had my dad with me, but now I have to drive alone. If he wasn’t, I wouldn’t be the driver I am today. He gave me the courage to drive. Before, I drove alone a short way. The first time I drove alone was when I drove him to the hospital in January this year. I didn’t know then, but it was the last time he was with me in the car. Because of him, I wasn’t scared of driving alone. He taught me how to drive his car. It’s a manual, so you drive it a little differently. Before continuing, you can read an old post about getting the licence below.

Originally posted on July 16, 2021

It’s true that when you get a wheel under you, you feel freedom. In 2017, I didn’t think I needed a driver’s license, but my opinions changed. I didn’t like to drive when I first got my temporary license, so I didn’t finish driving school then. But how things change. I have driven longer distances, and the more confident I get, the more I enjoy it. I will still use the train or buses if I go even longer distances. My hands and legs get tired if I drive too far. All those long drives to the North of Finland that my dad had to do, I admire how he could manage all that driving. I couldn’t do it. It took almost 14 hours to drive there, rests included. We only went there once a year to ski, but that was enough. I probably won’t go there again, even if you can go by train. We did that a few times because Dad didn’t feel like driving that far the older he got. Dad also drove in Europe when I was 6 years old and then in Germany in 2008. I won’t do the same. I would be terrified driving on the motorway in Germany. Finnish motorways are enough for me.

You get used to driving when you do it often enough. At first, I didn’t like driving on the motorway or in traffic, but now it comes naturally to me. A wheel is better than no wheel at all. Owning a car isn’t cheap. I could rent, but that isn’t very convenient because I never know when I will need one. I could always be without a car, though. But then there wouldn’t be the same freedom that comes with having wheels. I’ve thought of buying a new car one day, but I got used to driving my dad’s car, so maybe not yet. If I replace it, it would feel like I’m hurting the car’s feelings. I know it’s only a car, but I was with Dad when he bought it, so it’s like a family member. We had it for years. It’s not in my name yet, so it’s not my car. I don’t think I know how to buy a car even if I’ve been with Dad at the car dealer. One thing is sure, once you have wheels, you can be without one again.

Traffic at the Duran Duran concert

The long wait was over. Duran Duran arrived in Finland on June 2, 2022. It took 40 years. It could have been earlier, but it got cancelled. Better late than never. The timing was right because it was my 45th birthday. It was the biggest party I ever had. There were at least 12000 people there, so there was a lot of traffic at the gate. It took ages to get in, which was a shame. The warm-up band Nile Rodgers and Chic had already started their set when I was still outside the venue. Some people came to see them, so it wasn’t very nice for them to wait. Some of us had a priority ticket, but that didn’t help much. Nile Rodgers is one of the people who had helped Duran Duran and many others. He’s a legend. He had gone through drug addiction and cancer, and he’s still going strong.

Nile Rodgers and Chic
Nile Rodgers and Chic

The concert was held in Kaisaniemi Park in Helsinki. The weather was rainy and chilly, but the music kept us warm. The rain held up at 8 pm when Duran Duran started. I stood pretty close to the stage, but thinking about it later, I could have stood more in the middle, so I could have seen the whole stage. It started to rain again about an hour later, but that didn’t let our spirit down. What bothered me a bit was that some people crowded themselves to get to their friends, some during the concert. Some of them had drinks in their hands. The place was crowded, for crying out loud. Before the band arrived, some young women started to smoke. Hate when people do that. They could have done it before getting to the crowd. The nerve of some people. I stood close to the loudspeaker, so it was pretty loud. Some people complained about the sound and about the scenery. It depends where you were standing, I suppose. It was just awesome to see Duran Duran. Simon (lead singer) mentioned the band’s last visit to Finland between one of the songs. He said something like, “How did you know about us? You weren’t born yet. Oh, from your parents” I don’t remember the exact words. At that point, I felt old. I was 5 at the time, so I was alive. I didn’t know anything about the band then. I listened to kid songs and had other things on my mind. I heard about them when my mother taped music from the radio and the song “A View to a kill”, but not the same of the band. It was only later that I started to listen to their music.

I don’t think I’m ever sung and moved to the music the way I did at the concert. There were so many people, and the music was loud, so who would have noticed anyway. Their focus was on the band. I don’t know how many sang along, but I did to almost every song. Hearing people singing the songs is the best feeling in the world. People singing “Notorious” Amazing. They had many of their biggest hits, a few new songs, and one cover version. Here is the setlist.

setlist

There was a video screen at the back of the stage, but I didn’t see much of it. There was a big screen on each side of the stage, so you could see a close-up of the band. We, the audience, were waving and clapping to the music. I made some whistling noises with my fingers after the songs. I wouldn’t normally do that, but this was a great place to do so. I loved every moment of it. Their biggest hit is probably “Ordinary world”, At least when it comes to radio play. Simon talked about the situation in Ukraine and about the people living there. He dedicated the song to them. I think people sang to the whole song. At least I did. The rain started to fall harder when the band performed “Hold back the rain” It didn’t hold back the rain. It was the other way around. I was glad I had a good raincoat and Goretex sneakers. Rubber boots could have been even better. The rain was also getting on stage, so Simon said it looked like ice. It was also windy, so the rain still got on the stage even if there was a roof.

“The Chauffeur” is a big fan favourite, so that’s probably the reason why they keep it on their setlists. It used to be my least favourite song, but I learned to love it. Simon wore a hat that reminded me of a police hat or something. At the end of the song, he played a flute instrument. I looked it up just now, and it’s probably called an ocarina. My favourite song is “Save a Prayer” Simon told us to put the lights on (mobile flashlight) to get some stars, and many did, including me. It must have looked amazing from the stage. The band seemed to enjoy the show despite the rain since they smiled a lot. Especially John Taylor. When the band was finished, Roger Taylor through his drumstick to someone in the audience. The person said on Facebook that she was the one. Kind of funny since she had the same first name as me. I don’t know if he does that in all of the concerts, but it’s nice of him to do so.

The concert ended before 10 pm, but it could have continued much longer. It’s like a date. You really loved the date, and you wish it could last forever, but your date has already moved on, so you feel empty inside. I don’t know how long the band stayed in Finland. Not long, I guess since today (June 4) they’re performing in the Queen Elizabeth’s jubilee concert. So pleased they finally came to Finland. I hope they return again. The concert should have been the next day because then the weather was much better. I was so happy to have been there. Some people complained about many things, but nothing would have stopped me from going to see them live. If I didn’t love the band enough before, I love them even more now. Many people took photos and videos of the concert, which was a little annoying since all you could see were mobiles in the air. I took some too, but I also wanted to enjoy the show. As a souvenir and something to remind me of the show, I bought a blue coloured T-shirt with the band on the front and the tour dates on the back. Or more laundry, like my dad, says.

To end this blog post, here are more photos.

Music for my ears

pastel colour earphones on pastel background
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Music makes my life worth living. It also weakens other noises around you. Like the next-door-neighbour talking or just making other noises. Every other noise other than music disturbs me. I keep the radio on while I sleep, but if I hear talking before I do, it annoys me. I listen to music every day, so you can say it’s my life. I have Spotify Premium, so I can listen to it without ads. Those are annoying. It cost 10.99 euros per month, but that’s better than nothing. I can listen to songs that aren’t played on the radio. All those nostalgic music tunes. Love it.

I still buy CD’s from time to time, because I like the covers and the leaflets that go with them. Without music, movies and TV series wouldn’t be the same. Imagine them without sound. I can’t even. I usually don’t listen to classical music, but when it comes to drama, then it’s the best. My favourite music is 1980s music. We have a radio station that only plays 80s music. Sometimes they play too much of the same though, which can be a bit annoying. They have spoiled a few songs that I used to love, but now I don’t. One of them is ‘Living on a Prayer’ by Bon Jovi. Maybe the radio station doesn’t have the right to play anything else. They do play others song by them too, but especially that song. When I was 18, I went to drivers school and thought I would have a car, so I could blast my favourite songs. But I didn’t finish it. Now when I’m in driving school again and when I get the licence, I probably won’t play music that loud. At least not so everyone else can hear. I hate it when young people drive, and noise is blasting out of their cars. It’s not music, only annoying noise. There are differences between noise and music, you know.

I hardly listen to music outside with headphones, because then you won’t hear the birds singing. You see people with headphones on while they walk or cycle, and they don’t hear or see anything. It can be dangerous to walk like that in traffic. People walk around holding their phones in their hand, and even young kids do that. First of all, it looks silly and secondly you can get hit by a car if you only concentrate on your phone. They usually listen to music, and they don’t stop when they change the music. If I look at my mobile, I stop walking and then put it away. Mobile can’t be that important, so you want to risk your life for it. If you have a death wish, then just go ahead. Music is my life, but I don’t want to jeopardize my health with it. Not forgetting losing my hearing. It’s still good because I haven’t spoilt it in my youth by listening to music too loud. My hearing is so good. I can hear things that aren’t there. Even in a middle of a conversation, I can hear noises in the background. I don’t know if it’s because my hearing is so good or that I’m an introvert.

Music has been part of my life since I was a child. Listening to it and playing instruments. Not good enough to perform with one, but still playing for fun. I’ve tried a lot if different once, but there is one that I really would love to try. That is playing the violin. The only string instrument I have tried is the acoustic guitar, and that was difficult. So the violin must be even harder to learn to play. Maybe one day, I get to try one. Listening to music is more my thing, and I can’t live without it.