Not fishing for compliments

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Social media is a big part of our lives. People are always fishing for compliments. If it’s likes to a photo on Instagram or a video on Youtube. Just a mention a few. But not all of us are ‘victims’ of this popularity contest. Of course, it’s always nice that you get noticed by other people but that’s not the reason you post of social media or in blogging. Having the freedom to post your ideas or showing something to others, if it gets likes or not, is good enough. Social media is for everyone and not only for those who want attention.

Personally, social media hasn’t given me what I hoped for. It’s just been a tool and that’s what it really is. You read about people finding work via social media. Or at least how to get noticed by employers. But I guess it’s just luck and I have none. I mostly use Twitter and Facebook. I don’t really care about other social media platforms. I only use Instagram occasionally because I only have a tablet and isn’t any good. I watch other peoples post but hardly post myself. I tried to post via a computer but I didn’t get any likes so I wonder if anyone even saw it. When I post there I do get some likes but nothing newsworthy.

I prefer blogging over all those social media platforms. Most of them are superficial. In blogging, you can go deeper into your thoughts. My blog isn’t media sexy but it’s not supposed to either. I’ve written about it before but I say it again. I always wanted to have a different blog from the others out there. There is already enough of these food, fashion and lifestyle blogs. I leave those for people who actually know something about it. All kinds of blogs are needed because their written by different people and have different views on the matters. This is my 6th year of blogging. The first year in 2013 was short so I don’t count that. A lot has happened then. Not bad for someone with a “boring life”. I’ve been in WordPress over 10 years which I wrote about the 10 anniversary here. I’ve learned a lot since I started. Went from free to personal plan, is one change. And of course, people have found this blog, so thank you. So blogging has given me so much more than any social media ever have. I don’t need to fish for compliments, I let my writing do the talking.

Having a blast by myself

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I like doing things by myself. I don’t need a lot of people around me. In fact, other people stress me out. I like having a blast by myself. It might sound boring for some but so is partying in my opinion. I hate all the noise and talking nonsense. That’s just not my thing and it has never been. When I’m around people, waiting to go home as soon as possible is my thing. Other people expect for you to be social and if you don’t speak, they say you’re anti-social. Like that’s a bad thing. I just don’t want to waste my time on something I don’t care about or want to do. It’s better to be alone than being with the wrong people. If you want to be with someone, you’ll never get the chance to be with that person because they live in another country or they already have someone to be with. Or they won’t like you the way you like them. You just have to accept it and try to think about something else than the company of another human being. There are other things to think about.

I go to the movies by myself because then you can concentrate on the movie. Even staying there until the end credits without having that other person to get irritated. I take bike rides alone. Sometimes it would be nice to have someone to talk to but not many want to take long bike trips. I used to do that with my mother when she was still alive. But now I only go by myself. I can cycle in my own pace and stop whenever I want. It’s really relaxing to be around silence. Yesterday I took one of this trips. It wasn’t long but still. It was to an outdoor museum where they have horses and sheep. There were some people there but it was still silent. A lot of beautiful colours on the trees and blue sky with sunshine. Here are some photos.

Nature has always been one of the greatest things in Finland. When tourist wonder why we want distance they should really experience this side of our country and then they might understand why.

Taking it easy is my kind of a blast. I think better when I’m alone. I tried to write out on the balcony one of my fictions but there was too much noise from the traffic so I always write inside. If someone kept talking I couldn’t concentrate. It different when I’m listening to music. Actually, I’m even more motivated when the music blasts in the background. Or since I listen to Spotify on my laptop, at the front. Not only when I write fiction but also when I write this blog. I get more distracted if the neighbours are coming or going from their flat. Or noise from the outside. All the small sounds irritate me but not the loud ones. Except if it’s the neighbour’s loud stereos where it doesn’t sound like music at all. Or the people shouting when they talk to each other. I can listen to music quite loud but still, I can concentrate. Sometimes I’m so in my thoughts I don’t even hear it’s being loud.

For some doing things alone can be difficult but for me, it’s in my nature. I never feel totally lonely even if sometimes it can feel like that. Some have a blast with other people but I’m having a blast by myself. You don’t necessarily need big things to have a blast. If pets get excited from a toy and kids get excited about something new they’ve learned. Adults should be able to have a blast from the small things in life too.

 

It takes a lot to get things out of you

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Sometimes things you do feels like psychical labour. If it’s blogging or job search. It takes a lot to get things out of you. You try to figure out what to write but nothing comes out. You stare at the white paper or screen and you get nothing. You need to write that blog post or that cover letter but you can’t find the right words. That’s what happens to me a lot. I dislike writing cover letters because I never know what to write. Blogging is easier because most of the time I know what to say.

Recently though, I noticed in the stats that my posts haven’t drawn that much traffic to this blog. Things like this shouldn’t bother me but I would be lying if it didn’t. Maybe August was just a slow month. Luckily this blog is as a hobby so I don’t have any pressure to blog. I write to write and not make a profit from it. I haven’t really had anything to write about. Maybe it’s one of those dry spells. It’s like swimming in tar. This is my 5th year in blogging and every post can’t get a lot of traffic. Stats don’t tell the whole truth either, remember that. Especially if you only write it as a hobby.

Trying to find blogging tips if you don’t want a living of it, is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. That’s almost forced labour. All you find is how to make money. Maybe one day I should write a post about blogging as a hobby. It’s just that I’m not good at giving advice. I can only give my view on it but I’m not very helpful in that field. If you really search on Google, you might find advice about hobby blogging. Blogging is not rocket science. It’s easy to start one. It’s getting readers and followers to your blog that needs work. It really depends on what kind of blog you have. For me, it took some years but I got there in the end (515 follows so far) Taking part in writing challenges is one way to get noticed. Like this, Ragtag daily prompt. It doesn’t feel like labour at all. On the contrary, it gives you more motivation to keep blogging and fun is the word that should describe it all.