43 questions about me

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Next Tuesday (June 2) I turn 43. But age is nothing but a number. For some people birthdays can be embarrassing or they rather not make a big number of their age. Then there are these age crisis things. I didn’t have a 30 years crisis and not 40 years either. I had it at 25. I didn’t do anything special. I only felt I was useless and felt I hadn’t done anything I wanted to. Now I don’t care. You’re only as old as you feel. Other people’s opinions about your age don’t matter. I wouldn’t want to be in any other age because now I have the knowledge I didn’t have when I was younger. Instead of being outdoors in the warm and sunny weather, I made this list.

To ‘celebrate’ my birthday, here are various questions I found online. Trying to find 43 questions wasn’t easy. Most of the questions are from this site. It’s quite a long read so don’t rush it.

Some boring questions first

What is your full name?
Mia Eva-Stina Salminen

What is your height?
5’7″ last time I checked

What is your favourite colour?
Blue and purple

Sexual orientation?
Straight but why label it? You are what you are. I respect all sexualities because, in the end, we’re all human.

What colour are your eyes and hair?
Dark blue eyes. The hair colour depends if it’s clean or not. It also gets darker with age. When I was a child it was blonde. Maybe it’s more light brown these days.

This is where it gets more interesting

What TV shows are you into?
I’m mostly into old TV shows and especially comedies. A lot of TV shows have ended and I haven’t found anything new to watch. I’m a fan of Game of Thrones and Prison break. I also like game shows like ‘Who wants to be a millionaire?’ I hate most of the reality shows. Or cheating shows as I call them.

Where would you rather be from?
If I wasn’t from Finland it would either be Sweden or the UK. But I love Finland the best so I wouldn’t want to change it.

What movies do you like?
As in TV shows, I love comedies. Jim Carrey is one of my favourites. I also love Lord of the rings trilogy and no matter what others might think, The Hobbit trilogy. There are a lot of movies I’ve seen several times so I don’t have an absolute favourite.

What job would you be terrible at?
Anything that has to do with Math. I’m not very good with numbers. I also would be a terrible teacher. You need patience in that and I would just get upset at the student.

What skill would you like to master?
I wish I could be better at making websites but I hate coding. There are of course ready themes but apparently, you shouldn’t use them. I also wish I was better at graphic design.

What takes up too much of your time?
Being online. Also sleeping too long. I never have time to do anything because I sleep late.

What mystery do you wish you knew the answer to?
Why certain people have to urge to act stupid. Especially young people. I also wonder why some people believe in stereotypes. I also can’t believe there is still racism around.

What do you consider to be your best find?
The best find is that I finally know what I want to do for a living. It’s just that I don’t know if I ever be good enough.

What fictional character do you really wish would exist?
If I said Loki, would you hold him against me? In a way, he already does. Not with that name but there already are divas who wanted attention because they didn’t get it at home the way they wished.

What popular TV show or movie do you refuse to watch?
I refuse to watch reality shows like Love Island or Big Brother. I don’t care about other people problems. A movie I refuse to watch is ‘American Psycho’ with Christian Bale. Even though he’s one of my favourite actors. That movie is so creepy so no thank you.

What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?
I don’t if it’s impressive but I can make up tunes with the recorder by just listening.

What game or movie universe would you most like to live in?
Lord of the rings without all that war. I would live in Rivendell. It one beautiful places in that universe.

If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?
What I do now. Blogging, writing fiction, cycling, watch movies, eat candy/sweets etc.

What is something you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?
Live in solitude somewhere where there are no other people around and only the birds singing.

What’s something you’ve been meaning to try but just haven’t gotten around to it?
Entrepreneurship but the work to find paying clients is the reason why I don’t start. The other thing is not being confident enough about my skills.

If you were dictator of a small island nation, what crazy dictator stuff would you do?
Not crazy but healthy. All smokers are not allowed and no drunk people either. Or too noisy people.

What is something that a ton of people are obsessed with, but you just don’t get the point of?
Fashion in general and people using toe sandals. Especially men, such a turn-off. The same with Crocs. Yuck.

What irrational fear do you have?
Hating needles. That’s one reason why I don’t donate blood. Some might not think it’s nothing to be afraid of but just the thought of a needle is distressing.

Have you ever given to any charities?
No, I don’t have that kind of money. I’ve been to two charity football matches though so in a way I have.

What’s the last adventure you went on?
When I studied graphic design in Helsinki last year. I travelled there alone twice a month. That is an adventure in my eyes. Also walking or cycling outside is an adventure in itself.

What is something you will NEVER do again?
Eat sushi. I tasted it once but I didn’t like it. I don’t know how somebody can. But we all have different tastes.

What do you hope your last words will be?
“I wish I could have seen him” OK, that’s a quote from Lord of the rings. Maybe my last words would be “I have a million euros in a deposit box and the code is….” Then I die. There isn’t any money though 😆

What’s the best thing you got from your parents?
To be myself and have respect for others.

What’s the best and worst thing about getting older?
The best thing is that you’re wiser and the worst people think you’re getting too old.

What is something you are certain you’ll never experience?
A personal thing. I’ll never get to experience passionate love. Someone who likes you the way you are and don’t expect for you to be like everyone else. Someone who can’t stay away from you. I know I’ll never have that and especially with certain men. That’s all I’m saying about that.

What is something that your friends wouldn’t believe was true about you?
I have a dirty mind. Even if I don’t have personal experiences about a certain thing, I can still imagine it.

If you could make one rule that everyone had to follow, what rule would you make?
Be nice to others and don’t judge before you get to know a person.

If you could have a video of anyone in your life, what event would you choose?
My mother, my sister and both of my grandmothers when they were all alive. Especially Christmas.

If you had a clock that would countdown to any one event of your choosing, what event would you want it to countdown to?
I already have. A countdown to Elton John’s concert in September. But we’ll see if it will happen.

Have you had any pets and what’s your favourite pets?
Never had any pets because my sister was allergic. I’ve always liked bunnies. It was the only animal I wasn’t afraid of.

What are you addicted to?
Certain male voices. And music.

Have you met any celebrities?
Finnish one’s only. I never meet any foreign celebrities. Ski jumper Janne Ahonen. I got his autograph. And TV presenter Roope Salminen. He’s a big star in Finland and so down-to-earth.

Have you ever been to the hospital?
Visited and been a patient. My big sister was ill a lot so I never liked hospitals. Luckily I’ve only been twice as a patient.

Last but not least

If you were a super-hero, what powers would you have?
Mind control or moving around unseen. Maybe both.

What’s the tallest building you’ve been to the top in?
Ski jumping tower in Lahti, Finland.

©Mia Salminen 2009

Who is your hero?
It varies. It’s more about actions than a person. There are people I admire, like actors but also normal people. My parents can be heroes. The went through a lot and still managed. They were married for at least 40 years before my mother died.

What song always gets you out on the dance floor?
I don’t like dancing. Not the song by that band I can’t remember the name of right now. I just don’t like dancing. I rather watch others dance.

What’s your guilty pleasure?
Like Tom Hiddleston once said. Something like. My guilty pleasure is not having a guilty pleasure. I would say I do have pleasures but I don’t feel guilty about them. I don’t pretend to like something I don’t like.

If you got this far then bravo. You deserve a big hug. Thank you for reading.

Finally orchestrated what I want

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Finding something that satisfies you the most can be difficult. Especially when you’re young and need to decide what you want to do with your life. You think you have to decide there and then what you want to do for the rest of your life. But it’s not that easy. You can’t decide on your whole life. It changes and your opinions changes. You’re allowed to change your mind. What you thought as a teen doesn’t necessarily apply when you’re an adult. It shouldn’t even be like that. You should grow and move on. Experiences change you. People change you. You should become wiser as you get older. Maybe still make the same mistakes because in certain things you never learn. When you finally orchestrate what you want, you feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.

It took me years to discover what I wanted to do in life. I tried to study different things but I didn’t find anything that I would feel passionate about. Nothing seemed to feel right. I was so concentrated on what job I wanted to do so I missed out on other things. You can’t really miss anything that you never had though. I was independent and I didn’t need anyone else. My priorities were elsewhere so I didn’t think much about it. I’m also very hard to please in certain things but that will remain private. I didn’t want a so-called normal job. I wasn’t looking for a miracle either. If you want things done, you need to do them on your own terms. I was lucky to have parents who supported me to choose what profession I wanted. Some parents might push their kids to the limits and that can cause other problems later on. I was free to do what felt most natural. My parents knew I couldn’t be told what to do so they didn’t force me to. I’m still like that. Apparently, before I learned to walk, they wondered when do I actually start to do that. I crawled a lot and one day I just stood up and started walking. That’s a story my dad told me. Maybe I was just careful or I was afraid to start walking. It could also be because I didn’t want to get rushed. I wanted to do it in my own time and that’s how my life has been. I don’t like rushing things because then the quality won’t be good. In that sense, I’m a perfectionist. In certain other things, I’m not that fussy.

When I finally find that thing I want to do, I don’t get to do them. That’s graphic design. At my current job (which I’m temporarily laid off from) I don’t get to do much design. I was only there for two weeks until this coronavirus came. The job is mostly internal and external communication. Now when I have free time I could practice the programs but now I think about something else instead. I don’t even think I’m good enough to be a graphic designer but I still want to do it. I’ve thought about the web design but that seems too much work. I can hardly update my own website. I would like graphic design to be the main thing. When my current job contract ends I wish I didn’t need to look for a job in the open market. Maybe this break from the job is a sign for me to start something on my own. The time is probably not right now because businesses are in trouble and it’s harder to find clients. This would be a good time to at least think what kind of services I should have. I’m just glad I don’t have to think about what to do in life anymore. Finally orchestrated what I want and that is a relief.

No need to hold my hand

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Actually, this coronavirus is a blessing in some way for me. My free time from work is now extended to April 13. That means it’s also during my real holiday, which is Easter. No need to hold my hand because I always know what to do. It’s the same if I didn’t have a part-time job. The only thing that it’s different is that I still get paid. Another thing is that no one wants to shake your hand. I never really understood why you have to do that when you meet a new person anyway. The same with the hug thing. Then there are fewer crowds around and you can walk around in peace. I’m not a person who likes to show emotions in public. It depends on what it is though. Couples holding hands is another thing. Are they afraid they get lost from each other or what. I just see no pointing in it. Kissing in public is also gross. Each to their own. Personally, I wouldn’t do it in public no matter how much in love I was. You can tell someone you care without touching.

I don’t need to hold anyone’s hand when it comes to choices. I’ve chosen to go my own way and not depending on friends or classmates. I’ve studied things I wanted to study and not what others have wanted. Some teenagers who went to high school only because their best friend did. But I could never have done that. By the time I was 17 I wanted to get out of school. High school wasn’t for me. Besides, I hate reading and I hate Math too. I prefer doing things which is one of the reasons why I’ve chosen to study creative things. Even though was first education was in healthcare but I only went because my mother said it was at least something. I’m actually grateful for that now. Otherwise, things could have been different. Some people would probably say, at least you would have better job opportunities if I’ve continued to study health care instead. But I hate needles and not a fan of blood either. I always thought you should study things that interest you and not because it pays well or there are more jobs available. I will rather be unemployed than be in a job I don’t like. I don’t why you should be pushed to do something you know you’re not suitable to do.

Advice is always welcome but I rather do my own decisions. I’m not driven by money or ambition. I’m driven by independence and feeling good about the things I do. There is no need to hold my hand. I can found out things on my own. Maybe I need guidance at first but then I can do it by myself. Maybe not when it comes to writing articles or making leaflets about events at work though. I’m still not confident enough when it comes to that. I still haven’t got used to the workplace ways of doing things. Learning that is now on hold because of this crisis we have in the world at the moment. Who knows how long that will take. I don’t need any hand-holding to that either because bacteria are everywhere and washing your hands after you touch stuff is no brainer. Certain people just don’t see the obvious so you need to hold their hand. Metaphorically speaking of course.