Ding dong dinkum

dinkum in different letters
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That’s what dinkum reminds me of. It has a funny ring to it. At least to someone who’s the first language isn’t English. So this post doesn’t really focus on anything special. It’s just that word, dinkum. The reason why I love the English language is the word playing you can do with it. It’s so versatile and different words can have different meanings. I’m not that good in wordplay so I won’t write anything “funny” But then it would be a joke and that’s not my thing.

Dinkum is not a word you would use in daily life. Unless you’re an Aussie or a New Zealander. According to Grammarly, it’s slang for truth or hard work. I would rather use those words to dinkum. If you ask a Finn what that means, they would only say, ‘What a hell is that?’ That’s a word you don’t learn in school. It would be quite amusing if you used dinkum when you describe someone. “You’re such a dinkum” and they would think it’s something offensive. Finns that is or anyone who doesn’t know what it means. In fact, it’s a compliment. I would prefer the word real, genuine or authentic so more people would understand. Then again writing dinkum is faster to type and easier. It’s the understanding of the word that makes it more difficult.

Dinkum would be an interesting name for a chocolate bar. ‘A moment later’ Just looked up while writing this post and found out there is actually is milk chocolate called Fair Dinkum. Funny that you can actually found this kind of information on the internet. I didn’t really think there was such a thing for real. I just thought about how dinkum could be chocolate and there it was. You can even buy it here. Just saying. So there is was ding dong dinkum and then it’s gone.


Authentic is better than fake

Authentic sign

What I hate the most about people are the fake ones. Those who pretend to be your friend but as soon as you have problems, they leave. I never really had true friends. I had classmates I got along with but I never had a best friend who I could talk anything about. I had this friend in kindergarten and 1st year in school but then she moved to another city with her family. She could be my best friend. I was a bit upset she had to move so when she called, I didn’t want to talk to her. I doubt we would be friends now. She probably already have a family etc. so we wouldn’t have nothing in common. I don’t know why people don’t want to get to know me in real life. I’m authentic and don’t want to hurt anyone on purpose. I might be alone but I’m not lonely. There is a difference. If I suffered from it, things would be different.

I don’t want to pretend something I’m not. I’m not an actress who plays a role.  A lot of people post selfies of themselves for example but I don’t want to be like everyone else. I’m not gonna become extroverted because that’s what the society wants. Introversion shouldn’t be something embarrassing. We could spread awareness because there is too much negativity about it. Everybody can’t be talkative. It’s a shame being fake is more important than being authentic. Looking at tips on how to be in job interviews, they insist for you to act like you’re not you. You should be yourself but yet don’t be. The reason I fail in social situations is that I can’t act to be talkative. I shouldn’t need to say so much if I have nothing to say. People just have to accept I give short answers. I’ve never met anyone who’s on the same wavelength as I am so I don’t know how it feels to have a bosom pal. If it doesn’t click, it doesn’t click. I would rather be alone than having fake friends.

What you see it what you get. Being authentic is better than fake. There are too many people who don’t dare to be different because they’re told to be like anyone else. They rather follow the crowd than being judged. If that’s the way you want to live, then so be it. But I don’t want to. I want to be the person I am. Maybe that’s my way to rebel again the world. I’m not a follower but I’m not a leader either. I want to follow my own path. Everyone should have the right to choose their own ways without having to fake it. Not having those people around has made life much easier to live. Life is too short to have fakes around. Authentic people are the best and I’m glad I’ve met people like that in real life too.