Tag: introversion

Trace my number but I won’t answer

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The worst thing for an introvert is answering the phone. This week I had at least 3 unknown numbers. You can trace my number but I won’t answer. If it’s something important, call again. Otherwise, I think it’s a telemarketer because that’s what it usually is. I don’t answer unknown numbers and that is final. There is no point telling me I get used to answering the phone because I won’t. I refuse to do so. I prefer email or some other way. Then I know what it is about. I also don’t like calling strangers. It gives me anxiety and I hate that feeling. Email applies in this situation too. Email (or social media) first and then maybe call. Even then if it’s really necessary.

People don’t seem to understand how an introvert works. It’s so easy to tell someone else how to be. Answering unknown numbers are a waste of our time. I do anything so I don’t have to answer or call someone unless it’s someone I know or expecting a call from. It’s like talking to a person face to face and when you say something, you later regret it or you forget to say what you thought. Writing is easier because there you have time to think. That’s why this new technology is great for an introvert. You can get in touch with people on social media. In the past, you had to call people if you wanted something done. These days you can just do things online.

When I went to the entrepreneurship course, they said finding clients to your business, you need to do cold calling. You know, calling possible clients. No way, think again, I thought. I won’t do that no matter what. There are other ways. Not only calling possible clients but also calling employers to ask if they have any jobs, is a pain. Luckily a lot of business owners prefer you get in touch with them via email. Who actually have time to answer a phone? They wouldn’t get anything done. Unless they have a secretary. Calling on the phone is so overrated. This is the 2000’s and there are a lot of other opportunities to get in touch with people. It’s different if it’s a friend or a family member but when it comes to total strangers, a phone shouldn’t be the only option. Even a text message is better than a phone call. So just trace my number but I won’t answer.

I am an introvert, therefore I observe

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Introversion is something that should be talked about over and over again. Many times people think I don’t observe but the truth is the other way around. It might look I’m not doing anything but I do notice my surroundings. If there are people around, I can hear what they are saying. When other people keep blabbing I observe. You can notice a lot of things by just listening. Even if I’m concentrated on something like writing, I still have my senses open. It’s like a secret weapon that fools everybody.

I might not talk a lot but I’m not hard of hearing. That goes for introverts in general. People think you don’t have anything in your head. It’s actually the opposite. There goes a lot. We just choose who we talk to. What’s the point talking about something you don’t have an opinion on? I hate the feeling when someone is expecting for you to say something.  Silence shouldn’t be awkward. What’s wrong being quiet anyway? If you’re a talkative person and the other is not, why don’t you say something instead of waiting for someone else to say something. You can’t force anyone to talk if they don’t have anything to say. I should try to say, blah blah when someone is expecting for me to say something. Or maybe make an annoying sound so they would rather be in silent. Because honestly I’m tired of people thinking I don’t talk much. I talk a lot if it’s a subject I like. You won’t be able to stop me. I only open up to people I know something about. I don’t talk to strangers. Only if I really have to.

If people would observe more, they could put themselves in someone else’s point of view. Now they just run around like headless chickens. Being a creative person, observing is my second nature. It gets better with age. More experience you get under your belt, more details you notice. You get a different perspective on life when you observe what is around you. It doesn’t matter if you’re extroverted or introverted. It takes realisation and experiencing things to be observent. This is what I observed and maybe one day someone else will too.

Notable by a few

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underground signI’ve never been a person who seeks attention. I’m always in the shadows looking out. I guess it’s because I’m shy. But I’m also an introvert. We don’t like being in the spotlight. I don’t even see a reason for it. I only want to be notable by a few. When I was a child I didn’t want to join groups. My mother took me to a gym class but I didn’t join the other kids. My sister was the opposite. Her hobby was gymnastics and she loved it. I didn’t feel comfortable around others. I was quite sensitive too. Even my own parents didn’t understand why. I’m just built that way. I still prefer doing things alone because then I get things done the way I’ve planned it.

I want to keep my independence. What I fear the most is losing my freedom. It would take a really special person to tide me down and I don’t see that happening. Even then I would still want to have my independence. A lot of people want to be dependent on others. They want to find companionship because they don’t want to be alone. That’s why they desperately use dating services and such. I could be wrong though. But I have standards and very picky. I actually like being alone. Life is so much more than relationships. Everyone isn’t cut for that. Some are meant to be alone. Rather that than wasting time on the wrong person. Besides, there are so many things I haven’t done yet. Another person would just be in the way.

It seems it’s a requirement to be noticed by other people. If you’re not showing your face on every social media platform, your chances are low. It goes with job search, getting friends or even getting followers on your blogs etc. On Pinterest, there’s a lot of these tips how to get followers on social media. How to sell your brand to other people. Since when have humans become products anyway. The whole concept of branding feels so alienating to me. I can’t brand myself. I want to be a nobody. I don’t want to be notable that much. I want to be notable for my writing and the things I do. By some that are. I don’t want to be famous. If I wanted to brand a business, it would be different. But now they want you to be a brand in job search too. Soon there is no room for reserved and quiet people. In job interviews, you have to be the actor/actress but without a script. I’m acted on stage before but then I knew what to do or say. I can’t be pretentious in real life. I’m not that good. My talents lay elsewhere. I rather miss an opportunity than pretend to be someone else.

People who like being notable, they should be allowed to do so. But don’t expect everyone wanting that much attention. We’re not all the same and we don’t want to be either. Being notable by a few should be enough.