Three reasons why I don’t apply for a job

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It’s so easy to mock the unemployed. ’Get a job’, they say. OK, do you have one for me? No? I thought not. You just can’t go to a workplace and ask. It doesn’t work like that anymore. You need to apply and be the right person. There is so much more you need to do. They won’t hire just anybody. These people who complain about people who don’t have a job have no lamp in their minds to find a solution to a problem. I made a list of reasons why I don’t apply for a job.

1 . I have some of the qualifications, but I know they won’t hire me, so I won’t use my time and energy

People say you should still apply, but I see no point in using my time to write applications when I know I won’t even get an interview. There is always someone with more experience than I have anyway. I rather do something else than stress about writing cover letters etc. I’m not very good at writing them. My portfolio is not that good either. I have not much to offer for employers. They take people with job experience and youth. All I have in my resume are internships. I haven’t been paid a salary. Only once, and that was last year when I worked as a media assistant.

2 . There are no suitable jobs to apply to

This is probably the biggest problem, to find a job to apply to. Sure there are a lot of jobs out there, but they’re never suitable for my skills and educations. They say you should apply for a job that you don’t necessarily need an education for. Yes, but doesn’t it take away from a person who does have it? Besides, I already tried that approach, but I didn’t get any. I’ve applied for rental work, but it was pointless to apply. It was a storage worker job. Not getting a job is not about being picky. It’s about having good luck to get one. When there is a job to apply for, I don’t have the skills and experience they need.

3 . I won’t apply for the job because it’s in another city

Most jobs are in another town. You can’t just leave like that. You need to find a place to live. Travelling from home to work every day isn’t much fun. It doesn’t suit me either. Remote jobs would be better, but there isn’t many of those. Even if I have a driver’s license now, I’m not into driving long distances. You shouldn’t have to move to another city just to get a job.

There might be other reasons why I don’t apply for a job. But the reason is not health issues. I’m a healthy person and have no problems with working. Just because I haven’t had a job for a while, it doesn’t mean I’m not capable of working. Some people can’t work, but they’re still forced to find a job. Complainers should think twice before mocking the unemployed. Not everyone is the same. Most people do want a job, but they’re not blessed with one. It’s easy to judge others when your own life is complete, and you don’t have to worry about job search. But anyone can lose their jobs, so never say never. You need to experience unemployment to know what it’s really like. There have always been people who think they have a solution to a problem and think their advice is helpful. They don’t see they’re part of the problem.

Curious me

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Learning new things is part of life. You need to be curious, or it will get you bored. You need to be motivated to learn, or it will all be useless. Sometimes learning is so hard you want to give up. I have now had 4 driving lessons, but it seems I’m still not ready for the driving test. In the 2nd lesson, I remembered why I didn’t finish it the first time. There is so much to think about. I actually dread the lessons a bit because I’m afraid to make a mistake. I thought I’m a fast learner, but not when it comes to driving a car. The biggest problem is changing gears. All my energy goes to that. Then there is the pressure from other drivers on the road. It feels like I never learn. At least I’m a bit better. I need to learn the gears better so I can think about other things. One lesson left, but I think the teacher will suggest some more. It was 26 years ago, the last time I drove a car, it takes time to learn again.

Being curious about learning new things hasn’t made my life any better. I’m still unemployed, and I’m turning 44 in June. Apparently, 40-year-olds don’t learn new things anymore. That’s not the reason I haven’t got hired, though. It’s the lack of experience. Maybe I’m not good enough. It’s silly to switch careers when you haven’t even been in the current one. Why would I want to switch when I have finally decided what I want to do? I don’t know what I could do. No matter what I study, I still won’t get a job. Whenever I search for a job, it always requires experience. I have no chance to get any because someone will always have more. I like to learn, so I still do no matter what. It’s the curious me that want to continue. I do it for myself and my own mental health. It’s good for the mind to study things. No one is perfect in anything. Unless you’re a superhuman which I think no one is. Learning new things is not enough. Also, knowing how to do things better. Learning a new computer program and then get better at it, that’s what pays for your efforts.

I used to dislike Adobe Illustrator, but after studied web design, I learned to like it. Our teacher was very good at teaching it, so that must be it. Now I use it daily. I’m still learning it on Behance. You always learn something new every time. Practice makes you better, and you get used to things. But only if you’re motivated. If you’re not curious enough, nothing will make you want to continue. You can’t force yourself to do things that don’t interest you. There are things I want to learn, but I don’t have enough patience to do it. I don’t like difficult things. There isn’t enough time to learn a lot of things. The brain doesn’t have enough memory capacity to handle so much information. Only concentrating on learning what interests you and focus on becoming better at it is more important. I want to learn a lot of different things, because I get bored otherwise. That’s what the curious me want to do.

Blow my dreams away

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Blow my dreams away

I give up my big dreams

What is the point working for it

Blow my dreams away, you’re good at that

I’m tired of trying, it’s all in vain

Maybe it works for some, but not for me

I don’t have what it takes

Blow my dreams away

I tried many times, but nothing works

I will only think about small dreams

Blow my dreams of finding work

I never get what I want in life, so I won’t bother

“You will find something too” won’t help the cause

The only dream you won’t blow away is the driver’s license I know I get