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The pulse is rising

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A lot of things makes my pulse rise. People who have no commons sense. People who litter, adults cycling on the pavement, people who blast their car stereos, smokers, drunk people, dog people who leave their dog’s droppings on the ground, people who brag about their life on social media, slow wifi, loud people, selfies, rich people who thinks they’re better than ordinary people. So basically everything that is wrong with this world. Hot weather is also something that makes my pulse rise but that’s something you can’t control. Some things you just have to live with. Not all is negative though. Positive things make my pulse rise. Watching my favourite movies over and over again. Listening to my favourite bands and artists. When I’m excited about something my pulse rise.

The only time that I don’t like my pulse rising is talking to strangers or going for a blood test (I hate needles). I don’t like being nervous. I try to avoid things like that. When I do meet new people I try to be positive and not stressing about it. I used to be so nervous when I went to new places. Even going to the jobcentre made me anxious. I wouldn’t want to go back in time. I’ve learned through life experiences to have another approach on things. Introverts are usually worried about what-ifs instead of thinking, so what if things go wrong. I try not to stress about it. Everyone feels insecure sometimes. It’s not the end of the world if things go wrong. Unless it’s a life-threatening situation. If you fail at something, do it again. The reason we’re afraid of failure is that we’re too worried what others might think. That’s a pulse lifting situation. Once I stopped caring about what others might think of me, the easier it has been being in new situations. The main thing is that you know who you are.

The pulse is also rising when you really like someone. Even thinking about that person makes your pulse rise. That’s a pulse that is quite pleasant. That’s better than the pulse you have when you feel anxious or something really makes you angry. If your pulse is rising for no special reason then it must be a health issue. Too much is always too much. If humans wouldn’t have a pulse, we would be robots. Without a pulse, there would be no life and that’s a comforting thought.

 

The blaming game is so vintage

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What I hate the most is people who think they know what they’re talking about. The blaming game is so vintage. Just because their life has turned into a fairytale, it doesn’t mean everyone else had got as lucky. You don’t anything about a person if you haven’t walked in their shoes. Then these people giving advice about how they have found that perfect partner or that great job. Sorry to disappoint you but just because it has happened to you, it doesn’t mean it will work for everyone.

The people who get the most blamed for their being are poor and the unemployed. It’s like it’s their fault they live on the street. Or it’s the unemployed fault no one wants to hire them. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. It’s so easy for those who have a job and lots of money to complain about the less fortunate. I would like them so struggle through life as the poor or unemployed do. The world doesn’t work that everyone who tries will get success. People who blame others for the societies problems are part of it themselves. At least here in Finland, the politicians think it’s the unemployed own fault they haven’t got a job. That’s why they make up this active model where they punish the unemployed if they don’t apply for jobs. The unemployed do that anyway but still, they can’t get hired. The attitude problems lay elsewhere.

I find it quite amusing when these unemployed are without work for a few months and then get hired again. Then they say other unemployed are lazy. Well, good for you who got a job that easily but everyone isn’t as lucky. If you have been unemployed for 10 years or more and then get a job, then come back and brag about it. Then I will be so happy for you. Before that, I’m just gonna laugh at you. Being without a job for a few months or even 2 year is nothing. Blaming others for being lazy is a bad explanation. You shouldn’t generalise. There can be some lazy unemployed who does nothing to get a job. They don’t educate themselves or anything. They want the easy way out by collecting unemployment benefits. It’s only a small part but not all unemployed have the same attitude. I admit I’m quite lazy too but I haven’t just sat around and done nothing. I don’t want to be jobless the rest of my life. But all that studying hasn’t paid off but at least I’ve learned something new. I’m not gonna sit down this time either. I have that graphic design course in 44 days. Luckily no one has said to me personally that I’m lazy or anything like that. Even if someone did, I would just say, talk to the hand.

The blaming game is so vintage. How about blaming those who assume things? People need to get their facts right before judging. Things are not always the way they seem. Remember that.

Throw a dart at empty promises

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Life is like a TV commercial, promises that are said to help you. But the truth is they’re just a shell with no substance. You should do this and you should do that and a miracle will happen. I’ve had so many disappointments in my life I just want to throw a dart at empty promises. One of the promises I dislike the most is these networking channels like LinkedIn. I’ve been there for 5 years and I only have 7 connections. I think it’s just a place where popular people get noticed. Maybe the service just isn’t for Finnish people. Our country is too small for this kind of thing. If you don’t have connections from your past, there is no use for it. Then you hear stories from people who actually have to find a job through LinkedIn and you just think who did they bribe because that person must be really lucky. It’s just too good to be true. LinkedIn in a job search is useless. I will only keep it as a memo for my past educations and work experiences to remind myself. It doesn’t matter if my CV is in this service or sending paper versions to employers. The result will still be the same, no job.

The other empty promises are education. They say it’s important because you have a better chance to find a job. That’s just BS. All these qualifications are useless. You can have hundreds of them but still, no one wants to give you a chance. The same with internships. If you get one you can get your foot between the door, you might get a job there in the future. Yeah right. All you get is a good luck and they shut the door behind you. Then when you get older, it’s even harder to get “your foot between the door” You don’t even have a look in. The the only use you have for your qualifications is keeping you sane. If I wasn’t used to being unemployed, I would be worried and feel unwanted. Lucky for me, I’m alone and I don’t have to support anyone. It’s different for those who have a family. Some of them can’t even afford food. It’s really difficult to stay motivated when there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. All these tips about how to find a job are empty promises. I’ve never got anything by chance. I’m never in the right place at the right place. There are times I just want to give up and live on well-fare the rest of my life. But I want to have meaning with my life. I want a job and not become one of those lowlives who doesn’t even bother looking for a job. But because I’m not suitable for companies images, I don’t get anything.

You shouldn’t give hope to a person who’s been disappointed so many times. Nothing is worse than empty promises. Telling them to be patient doesn’t help either. How much patience must a person have anyway? Will it take years, decades or never? Politicians are known for their empty promises but it shouldn’t happen in daily life. You learn from empty promises by not getting your hopes up. That’s probably the only good thing that comes out of it. If it’s even good. Next someone promises me something, I’m just gonna ignore them because once you lose trust, it’s hard to get it back. Sometimes it’s gone for good.