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Respect yourself and others

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Find out what it means to me
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
-Respect by Aretha Franklin

Yesterday the music world was saddened with the news Aretha Franklin passed away at 76. I’ve only listened to some of her songs and ‘Respect‘ is one of them. I also saw her in the Blues Brothers movie. Even though her life had a lot of sorrow, she still managed to become very successful. It just proves you can become something no matter from what background you come from. Most of all you have to respect yourself. If you listen to criticism and negative thinking, you won’t get far. There is always someone who says you can’t do things because [excuse here] You should do things you like and not because something is popular or because someone says you shouldn’t. You should not only have respect for yourself but also have respect for others.

This MeToo campaign has proved men who can’t keep their hands to themselves have no respect for women (and some men too) Respect is learned from home. These creeps probably had a mother who didn’t teach their little boys to have respect. Some women also sexually harass men and that’s because they haven’t learned respect either. Then these paparazzi who follow celebrities have no respect for privacy. Celebrities are human too. They should have the right to go on holiday without having to worry about nosy and money hungry beasts. Not forgetting people who actually read these gossip columns. They’re part of the problem too. I would never want to be famous because then you’re public property and I couldn’t go anywhere without being harassed by disrespecting people. Besides, I hate people looking at me.

You should respect differences and not judge the book by its cover. We can’t all be the same. Every life is precious and you can’t decide who have the right to be on this earth. There’s a lot of prejudice in the world. Some think disabled people, for example, are dumb but if you look behind that disability, they’re like everyone else. I went to school with people with a disability and they were all very nice people. They have a totally different look on life. They’re even nicer than so-called normal people. Unfortunately, they don’t seem to have the same rights as others. Especially in work life. If they get a job, it’s usually without pay. There a lot of jobs disabled can do. Anyone can become disabled. You could get into an accident and then your life changes completely. I really have a full respect for people with a disability. We all could learn a lot from them.

Respect can be so easily lost. One big mistake and all that respect are gone. All those people you knew in the past turned out to be fake. You thought they were your friends and you respected them but then they turned against you. Telling lies about you and spreading rumours. They could have been people you looked up to but then they failed you. Those kinds you things, you know. Once that happens you will never get that respect back no matter how they try to ask for your forgiveness. You should treat people with respect and if they don’t respect you, they’re not worth having around. Life is too short to have toxic people in your life. Jealousy has always been around and the only thing to avoid it is to move these people from your life altogether.  The most important thing is your own happiness and having people around who have respect for you is part of it.

The pulse is rising

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A lot of things makes my pulse rise. People who have no commons sense. People who litter, adults cycling on the pavement, people who blast their car stereos, smokers, drunk people, dog people who leave their dog’s droppings on the ground, people who brag about their life on social media, slow wifi, loud people, selfies, rich people who thinks they’re better than ordinary people. So basically everything that is wrong with this world. Hot weather is also something that makes my pulse rise but that’s something you can’t control. Some things you just have to live with. Not all is negative though. Positive things make my pulse rise. Watching my favourite movies over and over again. Listening to my favourite bands and artists. When I’m excited about something my pulse rise.

The only time that I don’t like my pulse rising is talking to strangers or going for a blood test (I hate needles). I don’t like being nervous. I try to avoid things like that. When I do meet new people I try to be positive and not stressing about it. I used to be so nervous when I went to new places. Even going to the jobcentre made me anxious. I wouldn’t want to go back in time. I’ve learned through life experiences to have another approach on things. Introverts are usually worried about what-ifs instead of thinking, so what if things go wrong. I try not to stress about it. Everyone feels insecure sometimes. It’s not the end of the world if things go wrong. Unless it’s a life-threatening situation. If you fail at something, do it again. The reason we’re afraid of failure is that we’re too worried what others might think. That’s a pulse lifting situation. Once I stopped caring about what others might think of me, the easier it has been being in new situations. The main thing is that you know who you are.

The pulse is also rising when you really like someone. Even thinking about that person makes your pulse rise. That’s a pulse that is quite pleasant. That’s better than the pulse you have when you feel anxious or something really makes you angry. If your pulse is rising for no special reason then it must be a health issue. Too much is always too much. If humans wouldn’t have a pulse, we would be robots. Without a pulse, there would be no life and that’s a comforting thought.

 

The blaming game is so vintage

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What I hate the most is people who think they know what they’re talking about. The blaming game is so vintage. Just because their life has turned into a fairytale, it doesn’t mean everyone else had got as lucky. You don’t anything about a person if you haven’t walked in their shoes. Then these people giving advice about how they have found that perfect partner or that great job. Sorry to disappoint you but just because it has happened to you, it doesn’t mean it will work for everyone.

The people who get the most blamed for their being are poor and the unemployed. It’s like it’s their fault they live on the street. Or it’s the unemployed fault no one wants to hire them. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. It’s so easy for those who have a job and lots of money to complain about the less fortunate. I would like them so struggle through life as the poor or unemployed do. The world doesn’t work that everyone who tries will get success. People who blame others for the societies problems are part of it themselves. At least here in Finland, the politicians think it’s the unemployed own fault they haven’t got a job. That’s why they make up this active model where they punish the unemployed if they don’t apply for jobs. The unemployed do that anyway but still, they can’t get hired. The attitude problems lay elsewhere.

I find it quite amusing when these unemployed are without work for a few months and then get hired again. Then they say other unemployed are lazy. Well, good for you who got a job that easily but everyone isn’t as lucky. If you have been unemployed for 10 years or more and then get a job, then come back and brag about it. Then I will be so happy for you. Before that, I’m just gonna laugh at you. Being without a job for a few months or even 2 year is nothing. Blaming others for being lazy is a bad explanation. You shouldn’t generalise. There can be some lazy unemployed who does nothing to get a job. They don’t educate themselves or anything. They want the easy way out by collecting unemployment benefits. It’s only a small part but not all unemployed have the same attitude. I admit I’m quite lazy too but I haven’t just sat around and done nothing. I don’t want to be jobless the rest of my life. But all that studying hasn’t paid off but at least I’ve learned something new. I’m not gonna sit down this time either. I have that graphic design course in 44 days. Luckily no one has said to me personally that I’m lazy or anything like that. Even if someone did, I would just say, talk to the hand.

The blaming game is so vintage. How about blaming those who assume things? People need to get their facts right before judging. Things are not always the way they seem. Remember that.