I’m not a shoe

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The society expects you to achieve certain things at a certain age. You should have kids at 25, a career and so on. But what if you don’t want to have any of those things. Are you a bad person if you don’t? Maybe in some cultures, it is and your relatives do anything to find you a partner. All women should have the right to choose what kind of life they want to live. I’m not a shoe and I don’t want to be one either. If you want to be a shoe, it’s your choice. Some of us want to fight against that. Unfortunately, not everyone is lucky to be born in a country where women have a choice.

I’ve always been someone who wants to be different. Even though at 17 I thought about getting married and have kids before 25 but I lived in a fantasy land then. Now I’m glad I didn’t choose that life for different reasons. Many people study to a occupation and stick to it for the rest of their lives without studying anything else after that. I have had the right to study new things. It does have its downsides but that’s better than be stuck in a rut. You see people complaining about their job without realising there are people who don’t have a job. They should appreciate they have a place where they can go and earn money. Changing your career path is not too late. You don’t have to stay at a job you don’t like. Don’t be that shoe everyone expects you to be. You shouldn’t waste your life on something that you’re not passionate about. You wouldn’t want to wear a shoe that doesn’t fit all your life, would you? If it’s doesn’t fit, get a new one. It’s the same with career choices. If you don’t like your job, educate yourself to something else. Even people with a family have changed careers. Of course, it’s easier when you don’t have one but it’s not impossible either.

Happiness doesn’t mean the same to everyone. For some, it’s having that family with kids. For me, it’s having the freedom to do what I want. I can stay up as late as I want. I don’t need to ask permission from another person to go to places. I can also have crushes without having to hurt someone else’s feelings. It’s much more tempting to be alone than all the drama that people cause. I will never understand the urge people have is to find someone. What’s so bad of being alone anyway? Maybe it’s a thing in the American culture that has spread across the world. You see a lot of these finding the right person in American movies and television shows. If you’ve watched Friends, Chandler Bing says in an episode, “What if I’ll never find someone?” or “What if I die alone?” I would say, what’s the big deal? Be happy you’re single and stop whining, I think when I see it. Some of us aren’t meant to find anyone because we can be happy without relationships. If someone’s purpose in life is to get married and have kids, then so be it but don’t expect everyone else to do the same. Maybe I would change my tune if I found someone worth my time but that will never happen (they are probably taken already anyway) Nah, I don’t need a man to make me feel complete. I do much better on my own. I’m not a shoe because I can also be a purse or a hat like Rachel Green says in an episode of Friends. I can be anything I want and I don’t need anyone’s approval. So be anything you want because you have the right to do so. Everyone doesn’t need to follow the same script of life and other people should respect that.

Courage comes in many forms

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Courage comes in many forms

Courage is to be yourself despite what other’s think
Courage to do things your way
Courage is not about doing crazy things
Courage comes from daily life
Courage is to live your life alone
Courage is about staying true to yourself
Courage to live your life differently from others
Courage is standing for what you believe in
Courage is to show the society you dare to be different
Courage comes in many forms so never think otherwise

Life is a ball of yarn

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Life is a ball of yarn. It can be colourful or grey dull. Come to think of it my life isn’t as boring as grey. But it could have more colour in it. What is excitement anyway? For some, it might be wild experiences like bungee jumping or parachuting. For some, it can be going to parties and dating several people. There are different excitements. Some are settled for less. Someone might think my life is boring but that’s not how I see it. I don’t need experiences like some people do. It’s my life and I live it the way I want it. If people want to have wild experiences let them have it. That’s not what I want. I don’t even like rollercoasters so why would I want to try other crazy things. Travelling alone in short distances is excitement enough. Besides, I hate being nervous. I rather live a long life than live in a short one. I don’t have a death wish so I stay away from dangerous things and places. Living as healthy as possible is the main thing.

Especially when you’re a teenager it seems to be so important to have fun. But partying every Friday night is not fun. That’s ruining your health. Drinking and smoking are not fun either. I can’t stand drunk people. Then they complain about having a hangover the next day. Then don’t drink that much. I can’t understand how someone can drink so much so they can hardly walk. I don’t even like the taste of alcohol so I don’t know how someone can drink that stuff. I rather go to the movies or watch one at home than being out looking stupid. When I was a teenager I thought it was so silly when my classmates tried to buy alcohol when they were underaged. Here the legal age is 18. Even now years later I find it so amusing how pathetic they were. Not much has changed since then. I guess some just have to experience something forbidden when they’re young but I never had that urge. I didn’t see any point in it. I guess I was smarter than most people of the same age. There’s nothing wrong being a good girl or boy. You don’t need to be like everyone else and that’s the fun part. I found an article called ‘Fun, what is it?‘ and I totally agree with that. What other think is boring is fun for another. It’s the same the other way around.

The world is crazy but do not be part of that life. You can make your own life sane. Or as sane as possible. It’s easy to go along with other peoples suggestions. You should be able to say no even if it isn’t easy. For me saying no is not a problem. Actually, that’s much easier than saying yes. That’s because I’m selective and think before deciding. For some, it can be difficult to say no. There are things you don’t have to agree to and that’s doing things you don’t really want to. If partying is not your thing, you shouldn’t have to take part in one. The life of yarn has a lot of choices and you should do what pleases you the most. If a family member or a friend don’t accept for who you are, they’re not really supportive and that’s what everyone needs. Fortunately, there are people who do actually have respect for you and those are the people you should have around. Internet is great place to find people like that. You can’t please everyone and you shouldn’t waste your time trying to.