Nothing is written in stone

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Cobblestone street in Turku, Finland 2018 ©Mia Salminen

Nothing in life is written in stone. Things don’t go the way you planned. You are allowed to change your mind. Things that you wanted in the past doesn’t mean you want them today. Nothing last forever. Life is about learning things and moving on. If you don’t grow as a person and get stuck in the past, you don’t want to give the future a chance. The world changes too, so you can’t dwell in the past and do the same things you always have. Learning something new keeps your mind clearer. For example, if you have got your driver’s license, it doesn’t mean you can drive perfectly. You always learn something new. Like for me yesterday when I noticed I didn’t have the car lights on. I thought they went on automatically, but the car is older, so you must put them on yourself. An oops moment there. No wonder I didn’t see that clearly. You learn from your mistakes. If you learn from the first time or fifth time. The main thing is that you learn. The only thing that is written in stone is death. No one will survive from it and tell the tale.

The world is full of lies. It’s up to you if you believe them or not. One of the lies is about education. If you study this, you have to do it for the rest of your life. But that is not the case. You can study one thing, but then you realize that’s not what you want to do. It’s not written in stone what you want to become. Knowing many different things doesn’t do anyone any harm. Many people have changed occupations several times during their lives. They might have suffered from health issues, or their interest has changed. If they get a job in their new occupation, is a different matter. That is not written in stone either.

Nothing in life is written in stone. You can’t promise to love someone forever. The band you loved when you were a teen doesn’t necessarily mean the same to you anymore. The same goes with friends in school. You can’t be friends with your best friend forever. Well, you can, but that’s rare. You meet new people, and new things happen. Your feelings change. We are all human, and we have different ways to do things. One day you can love a certain food, and the next you don’t like it anymore. We should respect each other and not write everything in stone. We have the right to change views and interests. If we do everything we have always done, nothing will change. You don’t need to follow traditions all the time. Sometimes you need to do different things. Life would be dull if we didn’t leave our comfort zones once in a while. That should be written in stone.

Things going up the spout

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Things never go the way I want to, so I shouldn’t plan anything. All ideas going up the spout. Is it a failure if you only thought about it, or should you do things first and then fail? I have done both. Failed at a thought and failed in things I’ve done. I passed educations and all that, but nothing to brag about. I have had expectations, but they went up the spout. In a way, I’m disappointed with how things have turned out in my life. But certain things just happen, and you only have to accept them. Everyone isn’t made to be anything special. What is success anyway? I don’t know what it means. Staying alive is a success. Getting through difficult times is a success. Keeping on blogging no matter what is a success. You don’t need to have success in the working life to feel it. The world is too work orientated. A job is not everything. It’s nice to have, but it shouldn’t define success. The best success I’ve had is getting a drivers license. It might not make headlines, but it’s great news for me. Especially when I failed to complete it years ago. The second time around is the best.

Other people can live their life the way they want as long as they don’t interfere in mine. I’m not made for living a life most people do. I’m a lone wolf. I’m the happiest when I can be myself. I don’t need people in my life. There is too much drama, and I’ve had enough of those. They say having friends is good for you, but not for me. It’s the other way for me. It was different when I was a child. Maybe they were important then, but I’ve managed without any so far. I’m tired of trying to please other people. The world is full of fake people who think they need to be something they’re not. The people I know personally are only acquaintances, so I wouldn’t call them friends. I don’t spend any time with them. They have their own life and friends. I haven’t seen my old schoolmates for decades, and I don’t want to either. They weren’t my friends. Only classmates I spent some time with. I have nothing in common with them anymore anyway. Why dwell in the past? Doing things alone is much better because then you can do what pleases you. There is always someone too lazy to do the same things I want to do. Travelling is probably the only thing I don’t want to do alone. Especially if it’s abroad.

I thought about entrepreneurship because I couldn’t find a job. I went to a course about it, but that was 3 years ago. Another idea went out the spout. Now I’m not that excited about it anymore. I just don’t have what it takes. I thought I could beat the odds, but then I started to think I can’t even get started, so how could I keep it up. Too many distractions. I signed up for light entrepreneurship service, but that was ages ago. I was excited at first. I could try entrepreneurship without the paperwork and things. But like always, I changed my thoughts about that too. Story of my life. I never get things done. I’ve tried to find work from somewhere else, but I can’t find anything. They say there is a lot of work out there. Yes, but in the wrong occupations. I can’t become something else overnight. The jobs are most of the time in some other city than your own. I don’t know what I want to do anymore. I’m fed up with all the job searches, so I rather want to do something fun and stress-free things. At least for now. So far, any ideas I’ve got has gone up the spout, and I have no energy to think about what to do next.

No work, no play makes her bromide

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Sometimes I feel people think I’m a bromide person, especially on social media. My life is not exciting. I have no work, and my interests are not excited either. At least not what other people have. Even if I did work, I still wouldn’t write about it. Life is more than work anyway. People who talk about it a lot have nothing else in their life. Only because I don’t go to parties or anything other people call fun. It isn’t my kind. For me, fun is watching movies, doing things I like, watching comedies, take a bike trip, listening to music. If there are people who think that’s dull, then too bad. I don’t go around telling people parties are boring. I don’t like loud people and loud noises. It’s idiotic and boring to act like an imbecile. I despise that kind of behaviour. I don’t get many followers on Instagram or Twitter. I’ve had Instagram since 2016, and I only have 25 people. The most likes on a post have been 25 or 26. I’ve been on Twitter since 2009, and I only have 75 followers. I’ve never been popular in real life, and I’m not that on social media either. It’s a mystery why some people get many followers, and some not so much. I don’t really mind how many I have, but sometimes it feels useless to post anything. Especially when it comes to posting photos. It was a disappointment in the beginning, but now I don’t expect to get more than 10 likes. Even if I don’t get a single like, I still will be posting on social media. I’m used to “talking to a wall.” Using social media for fun is just that. I don’t care if some people find me bromide. They just don’t know me. Who does care if a person is dull or not? It’s only a matter of opinion. Not everyone can or want to draw attention to themselves.

One of the reasons while I fail in job interviews is that I can’t play fake. They expect you to be something you’re not. You can’t be yourself even if they say you should. That’s only in some kind of fantasy world. The other reason I won’t get hired is that I have nothing special to offer to them. I don’t know why you should be like a celebrity or glamourous to get a job. I’m only a blank and bromide person with a grey personality. Getting chosen for a job is like gym in school, always getting picked last. You know you’re good at sport, but other people still don’t choose you. We all can’t be Youtube stars. The world needs plain people. If someone sees me as bromide, then it’s not my problem. I know myself better than anyone else, and that’s what matters.