Clinging to a feeling

cementaryThere comes a times when you need to stop clinging to a feeling. Grief is one. When my mother died, I cried for three days. Before we buried her, she appeared in my dreams. Even after we did, I still so saw her in them but they then faded. Everyone grief in a different way and it takes time to recover. Crying helps to get the bad feelings away. If you keep it inside, it takes longer to overcome it. Death is something you can’t do anything about. The person who died wants you to continue your life. There are still times when I think about my mother and tears start flooding. It’s a way of cleansing your soul. You need to know when to let go and not cling to the past. If I had a time machine, I wouldn’t want to go back. I wouldn’t want to go through my mother’s death again and especially before that. Seeing your loved one fade away is something I wouldn’t want to go back to. I’ve had my own grief counseling and I survived from sorrow. That’s the worse feeling to cling to.

Some people cling too much on hate. They hate this and they hate that. It’s a never-ending circle. If its hate you cling to, let it go. Life is too short for that kind of feeling. That’s the reason there are wars. It continues from generation to generation. When kids see hate, they think that’s the only thing in the world. Adults job is to show kids hate is not the way to go. But when leaders spread hate, its no wonder they don’t know anything else.
Internet is full of hate but there it’s easier to hide behind a computer. They wouldn’t dare saying things in people’s faces. Haters gonna hate but it shouldn’t be taken lightly. It’s a strong word. You can’t really hate a person you don’t know and yet there are those who think they know them. There are things I dislike but I wouldn’t say I hate. Especially not people. If I do, it’s nothing personal. Some behaviours are rude and smelly like smokers but I don’t hate them. Some of them are decent people, except their disgusting habit. I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who hates because those people poison everyone’s mood.

A feeling you should cling to is love but there is a limit. Too much clinging isn’t good. It drives things away. The world should concentrate on loving things. Love makes you happy. Not just loving another person but also loving things of the world. If I didn’t love, life would be meaningless. After a long day or if you had bad day, it’s relaxing to do things you love. Putting some music on and write. Watch a movie you’ve seen a lot of times. Looking at pet gifs on Instagram. If there’s nice weather outside, you take a long walk. Searching Youtube for old comedy shows. Taking photographs of random things. Go online searching for information for things you’re interested in. Look for photos of your favorite actors/actresses. Tumblr is a great place for that. Those are things I love.

Cling into that instead of negative things. That’s how I stay positive.
Love your loved ones and show them how much. Do what you love the most and don’t let others spoil it for you. There’s always gonna be negative people who cling on everything they hear and see. They are a waste of your time. I’ve known those kind of people and I was glad to get rid of them. They find a thrill in bringing you down and nothing is good for them. Don’t try to impress those kind of people because they want to see you fail. Jealousy is an ugly thing. You shouldn’t let them get to you because you’re stronger than they ever be. It’s easier said than done but in the end it will make you a better and confident person.

Life is too short to

Hate. Why not spend your time with something you like? Life is too short to hate. The reason there are wars, are because of the hate. Some have issues with the past and they keep on hating. It continues from generation to generation. Why all the hate when there’s so much to love to give? We only live once. We should use our energy to more important things. Things won’t get better if people keep hating. It just gets worse. Like those terrorists that wants revenge because someone has killed their families. Of course it’s awful to lose your family but taking your anger on someone else is not right. By killing others won’t get their families back. You just have to accept what you have lost.

Then there’s hate against homosexuals or the color of a person’s skin. That’s something you can’t change and yet there are people who hate them. Hating someone because they’re different, is just not acceptable. If you don’t like somebody then just go back to your dream world where everyone feels and looks the same. Everybody should be allowed to walk on the streets without feeling fear. There’s no point becoming violent against other person. If you hate another human being, then you must hate yourself. No matter how much racists and homophones whine, the world will always have different people in it. There’s nothing no one can do about that.

Then there’s milder hate. Hate towards a band, celeb or any other subject. There used to be (maybe still is) a  trend where people had anti web pages. Doesn’t these people have something they love? Why waste your time having a hate page anyway? If you don’t like it then don’t. No one has forced anyone to like everything.
There are things I don’t like but I rather concentrate on things I like. Life too short to hate.

Extended VersionLike The Beatles sang “All you need is love” Which leads to what I love. That love I picked up from the post office today. The Hobbit: The Desolations of Smaug. The Extended Edition. I absolutely love those. The same with Lord of the rings. Great interviews, behind the scenes and of course the most important thing, deleted scenes. There hasn’t been any actor commentators like the Lord of the rings had. Maybe there’s a reason for that. That’s a shame since those were fun.

I usually don’t take part in The Daily Prompt but today’s subject was something I knew what to write about. Writing is the other thing I love. It’s much more fun to love than hate. Don’t you think?

Hate seems to be the strongest word

There are things I hate doing but is it really hate? E.g. When I watch sport and a rival wins against my favorite. I might get really frustrated and say how much I hate the rival. But I don’t really hate that team or athlete. It’s just that moment.  It’s just a state of mind. Something that goes away after a while.

If people say they hate someone famous. Why is it always the word hate? That’s a strong word. It’s wrong to say you hate them. You don’t know them personally. How will you know what they’re really like in real life? It’s OK if you dislike someone. But hate?! You must hate yourself too. Maybe some people feel better about themselves if they “hate” someone.

You might not like the way they look. Or maybe you’ve seen or read interviews and judge them by that. It’s so easy on the internet to judge someone and think no one is seeing it. It doesn’t have to be anyone famous. If could be anyone. They would never dare to say it in their faces. I known people like that. They’re too cowardly. Why someone would waste they’re time on posting hate online anyway. Don’t these people have anything to cheer about? There’s too much hate in the world already.

Bashing people (especially famous) on Twitter (or FB) is a waste of time and energy. To start a blog or website about hating someone/something that is really a waste of time. There are a lot of those all over the internet. Then there are people who never change their views no matter what. They live in their little bubble and don’t accept anything. They’ve decided not to change their minds. Even if it’s about their health. They don’t care. They have their views and you just have to accept it. They don’t care who it affects. They keep smoking. They keep drinking,using drugs or whatever. If anyone tries to put some sense into them, they just make up excuses, not to change their ways. And maybe even hate you for that. Even then hate is a bit exaggerated.

So before expressing your feelings with the word Hate, think what you really mean by that. It’s a strong word and it should not be used lightly.

 Do you, do you really enjoy
Living a life that’s so hateful?
‘Cause there’s a hole where your soul should be
You’re losing control a bit
And it’s really distasteful

-Lily Allen