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More than meets the eye

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look of lovePeople always judge you when they meet a person they see for the first time. But looks can deceive you. If someone wears piercing in their face and black clothes, it doesn’t mean they are evil people. In job interviews, the employer judges you. Your resume can look perfect but if it lacks something they’ve looked for, then they underestimate you and think you can’t do the job. No one is perfect and you can learn new things no matter what age you are. You should never underestimate people you don’t know. Even if you do know them, there’s more than meets the eye.

Ageism is a problem in the job search. If you’re in a certain age, the employer thinks you can’t do a job because your knowledge might be out of date. You would think employers don’t know that older people also keep up with the times. It seems that people in already in their 40’s are too old for employers. You should be 20 and have job experience of 30 years. You read stories from people who’s 50 and over about how they’ve got an interview but haven’t got the job because of their age. Employers want younger people who they can fool. Experience has nothing to do with getting a job. They want to hire people they don’t have to pay too much for. Unfortunately, it’s the older employees who have to suffer from their greed.

One of my fears is getting stuck in the same routines and now it seems it’s happening. If my mother was still alive, she would try to push me on trying to find some kind of job. Now I don’t have anyone who could give me encouragement. My father has worries of his own. My mother was the one who was most worried about me. She understood about job search since she was also between jobs from time to time. She also wondered why I never found jobs. The job centre has never helped me get one. They’ve only offered me internships or courses to take. Looking through the job ads and such, I’m almost giving up hope. There’s nothing for me there that I’m qualified for. It takes all the excitement of job search when you can’t find anything you could apply for. All these LinkedIn and other social media are useless. The same with these pieces of advice how to get a job that you can find online. It doesn’t help me at all. They say job search is like dating but I’m unlucky in that too so that rules that out.

I hate to say this but the reason no one wants to hire me is because I’m an introvert. I give bad first impressions and therefore people think I’m anti-social. I try to be more open but it seems it’s not good enough. Other people have no patience to get to know me. I’m more than meets the eye. If others would bother to get to know me and not just give up before I show them the real me. I can be social and a lot of fun. It just takes a time to know me. You would think a trustworthy person would be likeable but you need to be a blabbermouth to get somewhere in life it seems. I’m tired of people noticing I’m quiet. Does it say it on my forehead? They should really think before speaking because when I start talking about a subject I know something about, they wish I could be silent. I’m actually really considering to become self-employed. I’m bored with people judging me by the way I act the first time I meet a new person. If I really got a job interview, I wouldn’t get the job since my replies would be really short. I want a job where my skills are the main thing and not how social I should me. I wish I could work for someone else to gain more experience but if that isn’t meant to be, I need to learn to become better by myself.

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I got an instinct feeling

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You can call feelings anything you want but I call it instinct. I mostly do things by following my instincts. It’s a reason why I do things slowly. Feelings does have something to do with it though. For example, I got a feeling things won’t go the way they should but it’s also an instinct that it’s actually gonna happen. It doesn’t have to be anything bad. Maybe it’s telepathy but sometimes I thought the same thoughts my parents had. Especially with my mother. We could have said something out loud, the other had thought about. It’s kind of strange but I guess it’s a family thing.

Everyone goes through what they want to do when they grow up. Choosing the right career is easier than for some. You neither follow your heart or your head but I follow my instinct. I know what suits me and what I like to do. But finding it in the real world is difficult. There’s always something in the way and then I give up. What is the point of trying, if your instinct says it’s not the way to go? Sometimes I tell it to shut up but it doesn’t listen. I don’t have the guts to continue pursuing my dreams. You shouldn’t give up, just because someone says you can’t, right? I like being in my comfort zone. I wish I could be braver but when I try, I get back to my shell. I’m surprised I haven’t become a total loner who lives away from society. I don’t know how I can succeed in anything that contains human beings. I’m good with people as long as I don’t have to interact with them. That doesn’t go very well with the education I have chosen.

I probably have to think things through once again. I don’t seem to find my place in anything. My instinct is being really negative. These days you have to advertise yourself, making a brand. For a person like me, it’s not the easiest job. When I read experiences from others about what kind of degrees they have and everything there is to do, they still have no job. What if I become one of those? Education of different kinds and still no one hires you. That’s a destiny no one wants to be in. If you become self-employed, you need to do everything yourself. If I find it hard to find clients now when I study, I wonder how it’s gonna be in real life. I don’t dare to think. I don’t have a social circle and not much luck with anything really. One thing I do have, is support. From my father and friends online. Without that, I would be miserable. My instinct says I should be patient and that’s what I’m gonna be.

 

 

A simple life?Yeah right

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Why are things made so difficult? Why can’t this life be a simple one? Even on WordPress, you need to click several times to get to the dashboard. It was so much better before. I like simple things. What I learned in the web design education, a visitor shouldn’t need to click and search for things on a web site and that’s what WP is doing. Going to the Reader should be under one click like it was before. Now you need to click twice to get somewhere. But you get used to things but yet it should be done as simply. When I make web sites I do them as simple as possible. You can still have a great web site even if it looks simple.

If you apply for a job, you have to convince others that you’re good enough to be chosen. But that’s not good enough. You need all these diplomas and degrees to show that you can do something. It’s not enough that you tell and show them what you’re good at. Of course there are others who apply for the job too. A person who does have all these degrees probably can’t do the job but yet they get it. It shouldn’t be so difficult. You’re good at something and boom you’re hired. But they want to do things the hardest way. I could do a lot of different jobs but I still can’t find anything. Before you could just walk in to a company to ask for a job but now you have to send applications. That’s another difficult thing to do. Why can’t it be anything simple instead?

Nothing is free. You have to work to get somewhere in life. You live and learn. The older you get, more difficult it is. Learning new things at 16 and learning at 40 something is totally different. It take much longer but you can still learn. If things were simple, anyone could do it. I used to hate to going the unemployment center and other places like that. I was always so nervous so I kept going through my head what could go wrong. I wish it would have been easier for me but I made it much worse than it was. Now you don’t have to go anywhere and I wish there was internet when I was younger. Everything is online but it’s not simple there either. You need to sign in and remember passwords. You can’t have simple words because of security reasons.

Why is it so hard to write a blog post? I had ideas to write this but when I started writing, all the ideas disappeared. I want a simple mind but instead I get distracted by something else. Sometimes I wish I had a one-dimensional brain so I could stick one road of thoughts. Some have a train of thought. I have a road. It goes straight but sometimes I get sidetracked. I can listen to a person and then I start to think about something else during a conversation. I’ve worked on that for years. It got better as I got older but I still notice I lose interest after a while. My life has never been simple and I think the reason is that I made it difficult. Life is what you make it and something simple can feel harder than it is. At least I manage to do simple things some people can’t.

 

Tallenna

Tallenna