What makes one person truly happy

They asked on a radio today about what makes people happy. That got me thinking, what makes me happy? Nothing much. At least no big things. My life has been more downside than upside. But I’ve learned to enjoy the small things. Recently, just waking up and not stay in bed for too long. And I love to sleep. But you can’t sleep all day. Just because your life is boring, it doesn’t mean you have to stay in bed all day.

What really lifts up my spirit is walking in the park or take a bike ride. Nothing is better than a nice and warm day. Not one of those hot summer days. I don’t like those. My mother and I went to these long bike rides. We took some juice and sandwiches or fruit with us and off we went. But now when she’s passed away, it won’t be the same again. I probably won’t do those trips anymore. Maybe short ones though. But doing bike trips alone is not really that bad. At least you have time to think.

No matter how difficult life gets, there’s always something to look forward to. The problem with people these day, they expect too much from life. Why not just live for today? That’s what I do. I used to be worried about not getting a job. Even my mother were worried I would never get anywhere. I had dreams and I wanted them to become reality. I felt I didn’t have time. When I was a teen, I felt anxious because I wanted things to happen within a certain period of time. But as I got older, that feeling was gone. I was in no hurry. I wasn’t worried I wouldn’t get anywhere in life. I didn’t give up but I didn’t stress about it either. I don’t care if my life won’t be exciting. I won’t have any regrets when I’m old and wrinkled. It just wasn’t meant to be. If I ever get that far that is. You never know when things are over for good.

So what makes me happy, was the question. Entertainment of different kind. Since I was a child, music and entertainment has been a big thing in my life. I watched a lot of music  and drama programs. Both on MTV (when it still was a music channel) and Finnish channels. When my favorite boy bands were on TV, I was always taped their interviews. I have lots of VHS tapes which are useless now. There was this music video program called ‘On the air’ which aired on Super Channel (now called NBC Europe) It was more of a radio on TV since there were only talking and no picture. They had bands and artists guest starring. Then they showed music videos. My English teacher were surprised how good my English was at the time. It was only because of that program.
Laughter is also a good cure to sadness. Even thought I watched those comedy shows a lots of time, they still making me laugh. Not just comedy shows, also funny interviews with funny people. E.g. The Hobbit cast. When they get together, it’s pure fun 😀

I just couldn’t live without TV and movies. They make me happy. What else is there?! ⭐

Hate seems to be the strongest word

There are things I hate doing but is it really hate? E.g. When I watch sport and a rival wins against my favorite. I might get really frustrated and say how much I hate the rival. But I don’t really hate that team or athlete. It’s just that moment.  It’s just a state of mind. Something that goes away after a while.

If people say they hate someone famous. Why is it always the word hate? That’s a strong word. It’s wrong to say you hate them. You don’t know them personally. How will you know what they’re really like in real life? It’s OK if you dislike someone. But hate?! You must hate yourself too. Maybe some people feel better about themselves if they “hate” someone.

You might not like the way they look. Or maybe you’ve seen or read interviews and judge them by that. It’s so easy on the internet to judge someone and think no one is seeing it. It doesn’t have to be anyone famous. If could be anyone. They would never dare to say it in their faces. I known people like that. They’re too cowardly. Why someone would waste they’re time on posting hate online anyway. Don’t these people have anything to cheer about? There’s too much hate in the world already.

Bashing people (especially famous) on Twitter (or FB) is a waste of time and energy. To start a blog or website about hating someone/something that is really a waste of time. There are a lot of those all over the internet. Then there are people who never change their views no matter what. They live in their little bubble and don’t accept anything. They’ve decided not to change their minds. Even if it’s about their health. They don’t care. They have their views and you just have to accept it. They don’t care who it affects. They keep smoking. They keep drinking,using drugs or whatever. If anyone tries to put some sense into them, they just make up excuses, not to change their ways. And maybe even hate you for that. Even then hate is a bit exaggerated.

So before expressing your feelings with the word Hate, think what you really mean by that. It’s a strong word and it should not be used lightly.

 Do you, do you really enjoy
Living a life that’s so hateful?
‘Cause there’s a hole where your soul should be
You’re losing control a bit
And it’s really distasteful

-Lily Allen